The Narcissist You Know - by Joseph Burgo (Paperback)

About the Book

"Burgo has developed a ... guidebook to help you 'spot narcissists out there in the wild' (Glamour) and then understand and manage the narcissistic personalities in your own life. Relying on detailed profiles, vignettes from the authors practice, and celebrity biographies, [this book] offers ... tools and solutions you can use to defuse hostile situations and survive assaults on your self-esteem should you ever find yourself in an extreme narcissist's orbit"--Amazon.com.

Book Synopsis

In the tradition of The Sociopath Next Door, clinical psychologist Joseph Burgo's The Narcissist You Know is a "clear, easily digestible" (Kirkus Reviews) guide to help you identify, disarm, and coexist with extreme narcissists.In today's social media and selfie-obsessed culture, we are living in an age of narcissism--and a society that often celebrates this potentially harmful trait rather than understanding it as a psychological disorder. Scientists are beginning to learn that narcissism exists on a spectrum--much like autism--and most of us exhibit some mild narcissistic tendencies. But one in twenty people fall into a category the author refers to as Extreme Narcissism, in which these self-absorbed characteristics result in destructive behavior that harms not only the individual but everyone around them, including friends, family, and coworkers. With more than thirty years of experience studying personality disorders and treating extreme narcissists, Dr. Joseph Burgo has developed a useful guidebook to help you "spot narcissists out there in the wild" (Glamour) and then understand and manage the narcissistic personalities in your own life. Relying on detailed profiles, vignettes from the author's practice, and celebrity biographies, The Narcissist You Know offers easy-to-understand tools and solutions you can use to defuse hostile situations and survive assaults on your self-esteem should you ever find yourself in an extreme narcissist's orbit.

Review Quotes

"A smart, fresh, andinvaluable guide to the types of narcissists and their behaviors, as wellas life- and soul-saving advice on how to deal with them or fend themoff."--Peg Streep "author of Mean Mothers "

"A terrific book! Dr. Burgo has written an extremely readable and clear exploration of Extreme Narcissists. He presents effective strategies for protecting your emotional well-being and your self-worth from their bewildering and often destructive behavior. I highly recommend this timely and important book."--Susan Forward, PhD "author of Toxic Parents and Mothers Who Can t Love ""

"Aninteresting and insightful book on a problem that confuses and frustratesalmost everyone: narcissists and narcissistic personality disorder. As theworld catches on to the importance of dealing with narcissists effectively, this book will be one of the primers. It describes a wide range of theirdysfunctional dynamics, as well as revealing many of their childhood traumas. Dr.Burgo has provided an important blend of wariness and empathy -- both fornarcissists and for those who know them all too well."--Bill Eddy "co-author of It's All Your Fault at Work: Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People "

"Dr. Burgo explores the many faces of narcissistic personality, among the least studied and understood of psychiatric conditions. In layman's language he describes various sub types of narcissism, venturing past the usual stereotypes of unsympathetic and unlikable grandiosity. Dr. Burgo presents guidance in dealing with 'the narcissist you know.'"--Jerold J. Kreisman, MD "co-author of I Hate You, Don t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality ""

"Engaging and spot on! Joseph Burgo explains the many faces of Extreme Narcissism and what you need to know to stay out of trouble."--Sandy Hotchkiss, LCSW "author of Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism "

"Freshinsight into the troubling narcissism epidemic, providing us with signs to helpus recognize and disarm 'the narcissist we know.' A fascinating, timely bookby a leading expert who offers a real guide to dealing with self-absorbedindividuals in our 'all-about-me' culture. Highly recommended!"--Michele Borba, PhD "author of UnSelfie "

"Joseph Burgo helps us recognize the variety of ways narcissism can look. By unveiling the early pain and trauma behind these extreme defenses, he not only gives us a way to make sense of these vexing and often cruel behaviors but to feel some compassion for those who, out of desperation, resort to them. A clear and useful guide to navigating the Extreme Narcissists in your life."--Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC "author of The Emotionally Absent Mother and Healing From Trauma "

"Joseph Burgo helpsus recognize the variety of ways narcissism can look. By unveiling the earlypain and trauma behind these extreme defenses, he not only gives us a way tomake sense of these vexing and often cruel behaviors but to feel somecompassion for those who, out of desperation, resort to them. A clear anduseful guide to navigating the Extreme Narcissists in your life."--Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC "author of The Emotionally Absent Mother and Healing From Trauma "