Bff or Nrf (Not Really Friends) - by Jessica Speer (Paperback)

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Dimensions (Overall): 7.9 Inches (H) x 4.9 Inches (W) x .3 Inches (D)
Weight: .34 Pounds
Suggested Age: 8-12 Years
Number of Pages: 128
Genre: Young Adult Nonfiction
Sub-Genre: Social Topics
Publisher: Familius
Format: Paperback
Author: Jessica Speer
Language: English
Street Date: August 16, 2021
TCIN: 82463223
UPC: 9781641701952
Item Number (DPCI): 247-30-7055
Origin: Made in the USA or Imported


About the Book

Friendships can be tough. With clever, on-trend graphics and writing, BFF vs NRF (Not Really Friends) helps preteen girls learn to identify true friends, spot toxic friendship behavior, and keep their friendship bonds strong!

Book Synopsis

2021 Royal Dragonfly Book Award Silver Medal Winner
Finalist for Kids Choice Book Awards

Friendships are tough to navigate, even for adults. The preteen years can be particularly sticky, but we've got your back! Packed with fun quizzes, colorful illustrations, and stories about girls just like you, BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends) is the ultimate interactive guidebook to help you learn the ins and outs of friendship. Explore the topics of gossip, bullying, and feeling left out, along with ways to strengthen the friendships that mean the most to you. Author Jessica Speer is an expert on post-pandemic friendships with experience in helping tweens, teens, and young adults navigate their social relationships.

Review Quotes

"With the recent emphasis on social-emotional learning, this guide discusses friendship in an accessible way."
--School Library Journal

"Many girls struggle with friendship issues in elementary and middle school. This book provides a clear roadmap for girls to successfully navigate difficult friendships while helping them gain social awareness, skills, and confidence in the process."
--Dr. Cherylee E. Hirsch, PsyD, school psychologist

"As a classroom teacher for the past 12 years, I have supported girls with establishing and figuring out how to foster healthy friendships. BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends) touches on all aspects and themes of positive friendships. I recommend this book for ALL girls."
--Aurora Sidell, teacher

"This is a great guide for empowering young girls on how to navigate friendships in positive, healthy ways!"
--Trudy Ludwig, author of My Secret Bully and The Invisible Boy

"BFF or NRF is definitely the book that I wish I had when I was in elementary and middle school! Now, as a mother of a teen girl, I know from personal experience that navigating the tween years can be tricky. Here is a great solution and guide! Jessica Speer combines colorful illustrations and fun fonts with useful quizzes, checklists, relatable anecdotes, and quotes from girls to make this workbook engaging, useful, and a perfect toolbox for these tumultuous years. I encourage every mom to get a copy and hand it to their tween daughter as soon as humanly possible."
--Cynthia C. Muchnick, MA, co-author of The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen's Wellness and Academic Journey in Today's Competitive World

"A wonderfully empowering read! Geared toward younger females, this book is a must-read for those who want to help cultivate an awareness of the powerful nature of TRUE friendships!"
--Dr. Carla Marie Manly, clinical psychologist and author of Date Smart, Joy From Fear, and Aging Joyfully

About the Author

Jessica Speer is the award-winning author of BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends)? A Girls Guide to Happy Friendships and Middle School - Safety Goggles Advised. Her interactive books for preteens and teens entertain readers while exploring social-emotional topics. Blending humor, a dash of science, stories, and insights, her writing unpacks the social stuff that peaks during adolescence. She has a master's degree in social sciences and explores topics in ways that connect with kids. Jessica is regularly featured in and contributes to media outlets on topics related to kids, teens parenting, and friendship. For more information, visit
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5.0 out of 5 stars with 8 reviews

A Must-Read for Preteens!

5 out of 5 stars
JB - 2 years ago
Insightful, easy to read, and incredibly helpful! In a supportive and encouraging tone you'd want from a best friend, BFF or NRF gives you real solutions to friendship challenges. The fun and useful quizzes, and the unique Friendship Pyramid, combined with the nurturing wisdom and guidance you'll find in these pages will help pre-teens and teens to navigate the sometimes rough waters of friendships both today and in the future. It really is a must-read!
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Wish my daughter had this book in middle school.

5 out of 5 stars
Amy - 2 years ago
Did you know what a healthy relationship looked like when you were in middle school? How be a better friend? What bullying among girls looked like? I didn't and neither did my daughter. But BFF or NRF shows you how to successfully handle those tough social situations middle school girls have -- and it does it in a positive way. I wish my daughter had read this book when she was in middle school. I wish *I* had read this book when I was in middle school.
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Wish I would've had this book in middle school!

5 out of 5 stars
bcrofts - 2 years ago
This is an essential read for every young girl! My daughter loved the interactive style of the quizzes which really helped her focus on specific friends individually. I liked the great focus on not just knowing what a good friend is, but also reminding my daughter that she has to know her own qualities and learn how to be a good friend in return!
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Great book for preteen and teens!

5 out of 5 stars
Heather E - 2 years ago
I love this book! As the mom of preteen and teen daughters I found BFF or NRF to be a quick read that gets right to the important topics. It is full of great advice along with great situational examples that are easy to understand and apply. I appreciate the quotes throughout the book from preteen girls who shared their real-life experiences as well. My daughter also read this book and mentioned how she would manage situations that she's been in differently and with more confidence in the future with these new tools.
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A great tool to add to our toolbox

5 out of 5 stars
Elise R - 2 years ago
Bff or Nrf (Not Really Friends) is an essential tool for any parent to add to their child-rearing toolbox. It's relatable, interactive, and highly effective. I highly recommend this book to any family!
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Great Read for Tween Girls

5 out of 5 stars
Must Read for Tween Girls - 2 years ago
My tween and teen daughters and I have all read this book and it helped them understand how to interact with their peers more constructively. The book is written in an approachable and fun way that meets tweens and teens where they are. Jessica has a knack for understanding kids and how their world works, so it's a book that is very relatable to this age group. My girls loved the interactive portions of this book and it made them think more deeply about their friendships and how to diplomatically deal with difficult peer relationships. I have recommended this book to several other parents and can't recommend it highly enough!
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Great Learning in a Perfect Package

5 out of 5 stars
JDenny - 2 years ago
I’ve recommended this book to several friends - and wish I’d had this when I was a teen! I love it for many reasons: information delivered in a straightforward, friendly manner; cheerful illustrations with lots of space for quiz responses; and emphasis on self-awareness and self-care, honest conversations, and the reality that friendships change over time. These skills are right on the money for navigating teen friendships and really, setting the foundation for successful relationships in life.
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