brittcreme - 6 months ago, Verified purchaser
This book falls somewhere in between self-help and Christian life, without really doing either one very well. It was very repetitive and lacked depth. The heart of her message was drowned out in personal anecdotes that I found to be pretty self-centered. The quality of writing is not the best either; she includes many unnecessary details and does not evoke emotion. My biggest issue with the book is that this is a message that cannot come to fruition without the Lord, but she presents 98% of it as her voice alone based on her life experiences or advice she received from friends/family. She did not support it with the truth of Scripture; there were 4 verses quoted in the entire book, and not even until Chapter 10. She mentioned maybe 2 or 3 others in passing. The only real mentions of God prior to Chapter 10 are simply one-line quotations of her prayers or vague one-sentence references to what God is doing—along the lines of “I prayed and asked God why,” or “God has a plan to shape my calling.” Some chapters didn’t even mention God at all. It was all about me, me, me, and success/contentment are hardly even presented with a biblical worldview. Dooley asks the reader to consider “why do I want _____?” rather than “how do my goals and dreams contribute to my mission in the kingdom of God?” In my opinion, her message is meaningless without an eternal perspective, which she overall fails to offer beyond some trite sayings and superficial mentions. For example, when talking about faith and logic, her wisdom doesn’t come from the Bible nor does she provide affirmative statements about who God is; rather, she offers advice from her husband and even says, “I’m not going to give you a Bible verse.” A much better book about dealing with disappointment and unmet expectations is It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst—I’m actually surprised that Lysa wrote an endorsement for this book because of how completely not Christ-centered it is.