About the Book
"Author with a partner in recovery from addiction to alcohol presents The ASCENT Approach she developed with Jeremy Frank, PhD, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Alcohol and Drug Counsellor. Six practices to help couples rebuild their relationship are demonstrated in real-life stories of couples navigating the difficult process from early recovery to a successful long-term recovery"--Provided by publisher.
Weaving dialogue, emotions, and introspection, Love Without Martinis
shares the fears, joys, setbacks, and triumphs of couples as they find their way back to each other. In the tradition of storytelling, the readers follow the couples in recovery from substance addiction as they rebuild healthy and loving relationships. The common thread that runs through their experiences shows that true recovery requires much more than sobriety; it demands personal development and growth. Love Without Martinis
also offers practical tools to readers to help them on their own recovery journey.
"Jauvin collects in this uplifting outing stories of couples who have successfully recovered from alcohol abuse together." --Publishers Weekly
"Love without Martinis
is brilliant! This is an important read for couples who are interested in rewriting the story of recovering love together. This work gives life to the idea that addiction is not just personal suffering, but a family issue that must be addressed by all parties involved. This work is a long overdue resource for couples who are valiantly braving the work of recovering love and healing. Too often recovery books are centered on the individual rather than the relational dynamic--which for many is the most central part of their lives. The ASCENT approach offers a skillful map of healing practices to guide couples in a dynamic journey of recovery in a way that is easy to follow and immediately accessible." --Kathleen Murphy, Executive Clinical Director, Breather Life Healing Center
"Love Without Martinis
captivate readers with dynamic case studies in the form of stories that demonstrate a clear systems approach to engaging loved ones in the recovery process. This book is beneficial for all who face and treat substance use disorders!"--Dr. Gregory Hobelmann, M.D., Senior Vice President, Chief Medical and Clinical Officer, Ashley Treatment Center
"Love Without Martinis
goes right to the soul of the haunting issues that couples in long-term recovery face and provides useful tools to overcome them. These strategies go above and beyond the actual substance abuse to tackle the underlying feelings of shame, fear, and guilt that so many of us grapple with. Forgiveness and love are always waiting on the other side, and Chantal shows us it's all possible through these powerful stories of hard work and hope." --Daphne Willis, singer/songwriter (Sony/ATV) of hit song "Somebody's Someone"
"Finally a book to recommend to couples facing the debilitating effects of alcohol on their personal lives and relationships. We don't always see the full picture ourselves, but we can often identify with stories. This book offers the unique opportunity to witness addiction and the journey of recovery through the lens of each partner's experience in six very different couples." --Dr. Megan Fleming, leading sex therapist and relationships counselor for national media including shows anchored by Anderson Cooper and Lawrence O'Donnell
"Regardless of where a couple is on their recovery journey, Love Without Martinis
is essential reading. Couples impacted by one or both partner's recovery often struggle to find a path forward. Love Without Martinis
provides a clear and practical approach that couples can implement to work towards peace, trust, and happiness. This book doesn't just talk the talk. It also walks the walk in sharing moving, honest stories of real couples who have worked hard and found their way together. It is the rare book that both teaches and inspires." --Lisa Smith, author of Girl Walks Out of a Bar
"Sometimes we think that our relationships, if meant to be, shouldn't need as much attention as our recovery, or our physical health or our work. This book dispels that notion and provides a straight forward and joy-filled set of practices and principles to grow our relationships. Kind of like growing a garden, the tools in this book can function like sunshine, water, nourishment, weeding, and pruning to keep our relationships healthy and strong in recovery." --Dr. Cassandra Vieten, Executive Director, John W. Brick Mental Health Foundation
"The author brilliantly balances her personal experience and well-researched information on this topic to create a much needed handbook appropriate in clinical settings and for the general public. The ASCENT Model provides an organized and practical plan for goals and action towards healing. In the end, readers are left with hope and a sense of connection to stories of the couples who have supported each other in finding meaning along the often confounding road to recovery." --Sarah Allen Benton, author of Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic: Breaking the Cycle and Finding Hope
"Unflinchingly honest and remarkably candid, Love Without Martinis
invites us to grapple with the lessons of romantic relationships and recovery and to see that the point is not sobriety, since sobriety is never enough, but true recovery, which calls us to rebuild and re-ignite the passion and love in our relationships. --Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life
About the Author Chantal Jauvin
is an attorney, writer, and adventurer. Born in Canada, she is a citizen of the world. While working for a top tier Canadian law firm and later as general counsel of a Fortune 500 company, she has lived in Japan, Mexico, Cambodia, Russia, the United States, and Austria. She has addressed central banks from Spain to South Africa, worked with companies from Ghana to Uzbekistan, and mentored attorneys from Dubai to Mumbai.
When she is not involved with her community, she loves to travel the world on two wheels. She and her husband have pedaled over 10,000 km in faraway places.
Her first book, The Boy with a Bamboo Heart
, has been translated into French and Serbian. All author proceeds for the book are donated to a children's charity in Thailand.