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The Book of Boundaries - by Melissa Urban (Hardcover)

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Book Synopsis

End resentment, burnout, and anxiety--and reclaim your time, energy, health, and relationships. As the co-founder of the Whole30, Melissa Urban helped millions of people transform their relationship with food. Now, in this powerful and practical guide to setting boundaries, she shows you how to prioritize your needs and revolutionize your relationships.

Do your relationships often feel one-sided or unbalanced? Are you always giving in just so things will go smoothly? Do you wish you could learn to say no--but, like, nicely? Are you depleted, overwhelmed, and tired of putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to establish some boundaries.

Since launching the mega-bestselling wellness program the Whole30, Melissa Urban has taught millions of people how to establish healthy habits and successfully navigate pushback and peer pressure. She knows firsthand that boundaries--clear limits you set to protect your energy, time, and health--are the key to feelings of security, confidence, and freedom in every area of your life.

Now, in The Book of Boundaries, she shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health, increased energy, improved productivity, and more fulfilling relationships.

In her famously direct and compassionate style, Urban offers:

- 130+ scripts with language you can use to instantly establish boundaries with bosses and co-workers, romantic partners, parents and in-laws, co-parents, friends, family, neighbors, strangers--and yourself
- actionable advice to help you communicate your needs with clarity and compassion
- tips for successfully navigating boundary guilt, pushback, pressure, and oversteps
- techniques to create healthy habits around food, drink, technology, and more

User-friendly and approachable, The Book of Boundaries will give you the tools you need to stop justifying, minimizing, and apologizing, leading you to more rewarding relationships and a life that feels bigger, healthier, and freer.

Review Quotes

"I always tell my therapy patients that boundaries create trust, comfort, and safety in a relationship, but many people struggle with how to effectively communicate what they need. In The Book of Boundaries, Melissa Urban helps you identify your boundary needs, offers actionable scripts on what to say, and shares proven tips based on a decade of experience helping people live more freely by holding their limits with confidence."--Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone

"The Book of Boundaries is funny, direct, and smart, bringing you actionable tools and science-backed strategies for setting boundaries using language that feels kind, natural, and empowering. Melissa's straightforward scripts and practical tips makes it easy to identify your limits and communicate them with confidence, so you can start putting yourself first and create a life that feels bigger, freer, and more authentically YOU."--Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Second Rule

"Helpful as hell and lovingly direct, Melissa Urban is the boundaries big sister we all so desperately need. Through her insightful advice and easy-to-follow scripts, Urban teaches you how to stand up for yourself without walling yourself off from the people you love."--Tara Schuster, author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

"Setting healthy boundaries is good for your relationships, your business, and your finances. The Book of Boundaries shows you how to stand up for yourself, say no, and communicate your needs in a way that leaves you feeling confident and empowered. Through her stories, personal experiences, and research, Melissa Urban gives you the tools, affirmations, and language you need to reclaim your time, energy, and health."--Tiffany Aliche, New York Times bestselling author of Get Good with Money

"Melissa Urban has written the playbook for creating connection, protecting our peace, and expanding our lives. At once insightful, personal, funny, and direct, The Book of Boundaries should be required reading for anyone who has relationships with other humans."--Ellen Vora, MD, psychiatrist and bestselling author of The Anatomy of Anxiety

About the Author

Melissa Urban is CEO of the Whole30 and an authority on helping people create lifelong healthy habits. She is a six-time New York Times bestselling author (including the #1 bestseller The Whole30); and has been featured by Dr. Oz, Good Morning America, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, and CNBC. She lives with her husband, son, and a poodle named Henry in Salt Lake City, Utah.
Suggested Age: 22 Years and Up
Sub-Genre: Personal Growth
Genre: Self Improvement
Number of Pages: 368
Publisher: Dial Press
Format: Hardcover
Author: Melissa Urban
Language: English
Street Date: October 11, 2022
TCIN: 86266751
UPC: 9780593448700
Item Number (DPCI): 059-01-8983
Origin: Made in the USA
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Estimated ship dimensions: 0.91 inches length x 6 inches width x 9 inches height
Estimated ship weight: 1.312 pounds
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4.7 out of 5 stars with 13 reviews
100% would recommend
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A great book on boundaries

5 out of 5 stars
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H - 1 year ago, Verified purchaser
I first heard of this book when the author was on a podcast I listen to often. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I liked her humor (she actually made me laugh out loud a couple times which I don’t do very often when reading). Although she is not a clinician, which I tend to steer toward in matters like these, I think her personal experience that she discussed she had through her other endeavors made her skilled at navigating really tricky and difficult boundary situations. I also really really liked her boundary scenarios and her imagery or green yellow and red boundaries. I felt empowered to build healthy boundaries and compassionate to those I was setting them with after reading this book.
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EVERYTHING you never knew you NEEDED!

5 out of 5 stars
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Mistys Corner Reviews - 1 year ago
YESSSSS! This book is EVERYTHING you never knew you needed, and then some; I highly recommend it to EVERYONE! Included are over 130+ clear and kind scripts with the power to positively impact almost every part of your life. Most of these scripts are relatable to multiple scenarios and written in her established Green / Yellow / Red style, meant to provide soft and hard boundary phrases based on the situation. I’ve already started incorporating a few into my life and have bookmarked others I see being used soon! I started following Melissa Urban recently, and as soon as I discovered her unique feed and heard about this book, I knew I HAD to have it! I immediately proceeded to pre-order a hardcopy and self-narrated Audible audiobook! What I appreciated the most was Melissa’s down-to-earth, REAL PERSON vibes. Listening to the audiobook and following along with the text felt like I was talking to a friend with solid, SOLICITED advice! I’m grateful to have also been granted a complimentary ebook of this title, The Book of Boundaries. I want to thank the author Melissa Urban, the Random House Publishing Group publishers, and NetGalley for this opportunity.
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