Nautilus Gold Award Winner: Parenting & Family
A practical guide to understanding teens from bestselling author and global youth advocate Josh Shipp.
In 2015, Harvard researchers found that every child who does well in the face of adversity has had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive adult. But Josh Shipp didn't need Harvard to know that. Once an at-risk foster kid, he was headed straight for trouble until he met the man who changed his life: Rodney, the foster parent who refused to quit on Shipp and got him to believe in himself.
Now, in The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans, Shipp shows all of us how to be that caring adult in a teenager's life. Stressing the need for compassion, trust, and encouragement, he breaks down the phases of a teenage human from sixth to twelfth grade, examining the changes, goals, and mentality of teenagers at each stage.
Shipp offers revelatory stories that take us inside the teen brain, and shares wisdom from top professionals and the most expert grown-ups. He also includes practice scripts that address tough issues, including:
- FORGIVENESS: What do I do when a teen has been really hurt by someone and it's not their fault?
- COMMUNICATION: How do I get a teen to talk to me? They just grunt.
- TRUST: My teen blew it. My trust is gone. Where do we go from here?
- BULLYING: Help! A teen (or their friend) is being harassed.
- DIFFICULT AND AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS: Drugs. Death. Sex. Oh my.
Written in Shipp's playfully authoritative, no-nonsense voice, The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans tells his story and unpacks practical strategies that can make a difference. Ultimately, it's not about shortcuts or magic words--as Shipp reminds us, it's about investing in kids and giving them the love, time, and support they need to thrive.
And that means every kid is one caring adult away from being a success story.
From the Back Cover
Harvard's Center on the Developing Child found that every kid who succeeds in the face of adversity has had at least one committed relationship with a supportive adult. But Josh Shipp didn't need Harvard to understand that. As an at-risk foster kid, Shipp faced a bleak future that would likely have included prison or homelessness--until he met Rodney, the grown-up who changed his life.
Now, in The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans, Shipp shows us how to be that caring adult in a teenager's life. Stressing the need for mutual respect, trust, and encouragement, he identifies the three key mind-sets for understanding teens. He breaks down the distinct phases of teenage life, examines the challenges at each phase, and offers revelatory stories that take us deep inside the teen brain.
Full of field-tested, game-changing strategies from top professionals and word-for-word scripts to troubleshoot more than twenty common teen issues, including bullying, broken trust, drugs, cell phones, and sex, The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans lays out unflinchingly practical ways to make a difference in a teen's life. As Shipp reminds us, raising a respectable adult comes down to investing in teens and giving them the boundaries, time, and support they need to thrive.
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"An accessible primer for helping parents understand and guide their kids through the often confounding adolescent years. Shipp addresses an array of typical problems faced by adolescents, each one accompanied by simple and logical action steps."--Publishers Weekly
"An essential guide to understanding and positively influencing adolescents. This book is equal parts inspiring and genuinely helpful for every parent, youth worker, educator, or anyone involved with teens in any capacity."--Salome Thomas-EL, award-winning principal and author of The Immortality of Influence
"As a Dad I appreciate how practical Josh's insights are. This book provides effective and practical ways to handle even the most squirm-worthy moments of the teenage years."--Doyin Richards, fatherhood advocate and contributor to UPWORTHY and Parents Magazine
"As both a Mom and professor, I found this parenting book to be a breath of fresh air. Josh skillfully combines heart, humor, and research-backed strategies to reclaim harmony with the teenage human in your life."--Kimberly Allen, PhD, Department of Youth, Family, and Community Sciences at North Carolina State University
"Raising an accountable adult is challenging but possible. Josh Shipp presents practical solutions to help parents and other caring adults be as effective as possible, even in the most difficult situations. You will acquire new strategies to provide teens with the skills and confidence they need to be successful!"--John G. Miller, author of QBQ! The Question Behind the Question and Raising Accountable Kids
"Research keeps telling us that committed adults make a difference in the lives of teenagers. Now, Josh Shipp tells you how to be
that adult. The Grown-up's Guide to Teenage Humans
is a must-have resource for anyone who has a heart for the next generation."--Dave Ramsey, best-selling author and nationally syndicated radio show host
"Shipp commands our attention as he gives us advice about dealing with our teenagers...How to create trust and mutual respect is the meat of this book...The Grown-Up's Guide to Teenage Humans resonates deeply and contains some amazing stories...Sometimes it's a simple idea that leaves you with goose bumps: A kid's life can be transformed by a caring adult who's just a little bit more bullheaded than the kid."--New York Times Book Review
"Teenagers pose unique challenges for parents, teachers and caregivers. This book is an essential read, providing a unique pathway to best understand, connect with and guide us in nurturing healthy, resilient teens."--Gene Beresin MD, MA, Executive Director of The Clay Center for Young Healthy Minds and Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School
"The success and impact of my work originates with teachers and other caring adults who invested in me during my formative teenage years. Josh Shipp's book arms caring adults with the principles, insights, and inspiration they need to help teens they care about succeed."--Jack Canfield, co-creator of The Chicken Soup for the Soul(R) Series and author of The Success Principles
"This book is the training manual you never got. A must-have resource for parents, teachers, or anyone else who has to deal with teens."--Ellen Rakieten, Executive Producer of OPRAH
"This book provides a deep understanding of a teenager's needs and a practical guide for nurturing optimal development. The advice Josh shares is evidence-based, no nonsense, and uncompromising in it's practicality. These insights will teach us how we can be that one caring adult every teen needs."--Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of New York Times
bestseller How to Raise an Adult
"This is an invaluable guide to understanding, influencing, and genuinely helping the teenager in your life. Josh offers uncompromisingly practical tips to restore trust, build mutual respect, and expertly help them navigate adolescence successfully."--Rosalind Wiseman, New York Times
best-selling author of Queen Bees and Wannabes
and founder of Cultures of Dignity