The Five Marks of a Man - by Brian Tome (Paperback)

About the Book

Pastor Brian Tome challenges men who find themselves at a pressure point--relationally, occupationally, emotionally, or spiritually--to rise to the level of manhood God intended, one defined by strength, purpose, and a code of honor.

Book Synopsis

A boy doesn't automatically become a man at age 18. What differentiates a man from a boy is the way he lives. A man has a vision for his life while a boy lives day to day. A man is a team player while a boy wants to be MVP. A man works while a boy plays. A man has the courage to take a minority position while a boy wants the reassurance of the crowd. A man is a protector while a boy is a predator. These are the five marks of a man. It's not enough to just know them. A real man aggressively pursues them on a daily basis.

Drawing from his own experience and the lives of others, pastor Brian Tome calls on men to examine themselves and take steps in the direction of a fully realized manhood that honors God, respects women, elevates others, and works purposefully for an end greater than their own satisfaction or pleasure. It's time for men to step into their honorable place in the world and lean into a new reality--one defined by strength, purpose, and honor.

From the Back Cover

A boy doesn't automatically become a man at age eighteen. What differentiates a man from a boy is the way he lives.

A boy . . .
- lives day to day
- wants to be MVP
- plays
- wants the reassurance of the crowd
- is a predator

A man . . .
- has a vision for his life
- is a team player
- works
- has the courage to take a minority position
- is a protector

These are the five marks of a man. They are a primal code that every great man in history has aggressively pursued. Drawing from his own experience and the lives of others, pastor Brian Tome calls on men to examine themselves and take steps in the direction of the adventure of a fully realized manhood that honors God, respects women, elevates others, and works purposefully for an end greater than their own satisfaction or pleasure.


"For a generation that has not had great role models of what godly men look like, Brian's clarion call to live out the five marks of biblical manhood inspires and challenges men to be all God intended so that future generations have men worth following."--John Burke, New York Times bestselling author of Imagine Heaven and No Perfect People Allowed

"In this era of great confusion over what it actually means to be a full-fledged man, Brian Tome has written a helpful, timely, and at times hilarious book. I highly recommend it."--Larry Osborne, author and pastor, North Coast Church


Brian Tome is senior pastor of Crossroads, the fastest growing church in America (Outreach Magazine, 2017), which is actively engaged in combating poverty, building homes for girls rescued from sex slavery, and bringing together entrepreneurs to start the first faith-based business accelerator. An avid motorcyclist, Tome rides tens of thousands of miles and camps more than 30 nights every year.

About the Author

Brian Tome is senior pastor of Crossroads, the fastest growing church in America (Outreach Magazine, 2017), which is actively engaged in combating poverty, building homes for girls rescued from sex slavery, and bringing together entrepreneurs to start the first faith-based business accelerator. An avid motorcyclist, Tome rides tens of thousands of miles and camps more than 30 nights every year.