How Will I Ever Get Through This? - by Lucy Hone (Paperback)

Book Synopsis

Not all grief begins with death. This practical, research-backed guide offers a compassionate path through loss, change, and uncertainty.

From internationally renowned resilience expert and host of one of the most popular TED Talks, Dr. Lucy Hone, How Will I Ever Get Through This? is an accessible and evidence-based guide to navigating grief in all its forms, including the loss of a loved one, divorce, illness, estrangement, infertility, job loss, trauma, and other life-changing experiences.

Some losses are visible. Others, sometimes called "living losses," can profoundly alter our identity, relationships, and sense of the future without being fully recognized by the people around us. Drawing on original research, her work with grieving individuals, and her own experience of devastating loss, Dr. Hone explains why grief affects the mind and body and offers practical strategies for moving through it.

Organized around twenty essential questions, the book addresses the concerns that arise during life's most difficult seasons:
-Why am I so tired?
-Who am I now?
-Will I ever feel happy again?
-How has this loss changed me?
-What can I do when my emotions feel overwhelming?

Through clear explanations, compassionate guidance, reflective exercises, and proven coping tools, Dr. Hone helps readers understand what they are experiencing, regain a sense of control, and take small, manageable steps toward healing.

For anyone living with grief or struggling through a major life change, How Will I Ever Get Through This? is a practical and hopeful resource for finding resilience, meaning, and a way forward.

Review Quotes

"Hone understands loss. Her young daughter was killed in a car crash. But she has been able to turn her tragedy into a truly useful set of steps and writing prompts to guide anyone facing similar challenges. Readers will feel understood and comforted." -Booklist, starred review

"The best work I know on positive psychology and grief is Lucy Hone's." -Dr. Martin Seligman, bestselling and award-winning author of Learned Optimism and Flourish

"Lucy's insights are practical, wise and deeply human - they stay with you long after you read them." -Chelsea Pottenger, author of The Mindful High Performer

"How Will I Get Through This? is the book we always needed. An invaluable education, a constant companion, and a brilliantly necessary resource that will transform how you relate to life's unexpected losses, changes, and challenges entirely, and for the better. Lucy Hone takes readers firmly and compassionately by the hand, lets them know they're not alone, and walks them through the moments, questions, and feelings we all encounter but were never taught what to do with or how to navigate. This book is a gift to the world, and to humanity. It belongs on every bookshelf because what it helps and heals belongs to every person." -Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC, author of Overcoming Infedelity

"Compassionate without sentimentality and practical without platitudes, How Will I Ever Get Through This? is a landmark book on grief. Dr. Lucy Hone offers a scientifically grounded, deeply humane guide for navigating loss and finding strength, meaning, and renewal on the other side." -Tasha Eurich, New York Times bestselling author of Shatterproof, Insight, and Bankable Leadership

"With scientific grounding and in a profoundly human manner, How Will I Ever Get Through This?, brings Lucy's characteristic candor, compassion, and action-orientation to help us explore living losses. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. It is honest, generous, deeply wise, and filled with the kind of insights that stay with you long after you close the final page. Lucy Hone is one of the most trusted voices in the field of resilience, and this book solidifies why." - Jillian Coppley, president and chief programs & services officer, VIA Institute on Character

About the Author

Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today.