I Hope You Hate This - by Nick Pollard (Hardcover)

Book Synopsis

From the life coach behind the popular Instagram account @thepeopledispleaser, fresh, spiky advice for how to stop being an emotional landfill and start living for yourself

After years of saying yes when he meant no, twisting himself into knots for others' approval, and apologizing for nothing, Nick Pollard realized that his addiction to people pleasing had torched his relationships and turned him into a miserable, resentful liar. Worst of all, it made him afraid to change. What if no one liked the new Nick?

I Hope You Hate This contains all the hard-won advice you need to become a real person - not a passive schmuck with a talent for walking on eggshells. Crackling with Pollard's stranger-than-fiction stories and self-deprecating humor, this book will challenge you to separate your own emotions from the emotions of others, to stop victimizing yourself for your own mistakes, to break the habit of telling "harmless" white lies for social approval, and to practice "controlled demolition" of your life that leads to big positive changes without burning everything to the ground.

This book won't give you the language to brag about your "healing journey" on Instagram, nor will it sugar coat the difficult work of growth. But it will give you the tools to create the freedom, happiness, and fulfillment you deserve. You will hate this. But it will help.

Review Quotes

"In I Hope You Hate This, Nick hits you with a tire iron upside the head and spells out the solutions to your people-pleasing behaviors in plain English. If you feel burnt out, underappreciated, and ready for a change, this book is a must read." --DR. ROBERT GLOVER, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

"Hilarious, warm, and full of the kind of wisdom that only comes from making terrible decisions and living to tell the tale, I Hope You Hate This teaches you how to overcome the destructive habits of self-abandonment and go after the life you really want." --KATHERINE MORGAN SCHAFLER, psychotherapist and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control

"Nick tells you the hard truth, no matter the cost, and I wish I'd had a therapist like him in my life. It would have saved me a lot of pain and suffering." --TUCKER MAX, four-time New York Times bestselling author

About the Author

Nick Pollard is a life coach who specializes in addiction, codependency, and self-esteem. He has helped hundreds of people in his 1:1 coaching business reach their goals and find fulfillment. He is based in Huntington Beach, California.