One Bad Mother - by Ej Dickson (Hardcover)

Book Synopsis

For fans of the witty and evocative writing of Anne Helen Petersen and Amanda Montell, a sharply clever exploration of what it means to be a "bad mom" by delving into the world of momfluencers, stage moms, trad wives, and more.

We all have an idea what it means to be a good mom: little screen time, kids hitting their milestones, endless patience and understanding, and self-sacrifice on behalf of one's children. But what does it mean to be a "bad mom" in modern society? Women as wide-ranging as Meghan Markle, Hannah Neelman (of Ballerina Farm), and anyone giving birth over forty, have been labeled "bad moms." In a world where the rules are constantly changing, it feels like women simply cannot win.

With this in mind, in her first book, Ej Dickson takes a sharp, provocative look at one of society's most polarizing labels: the "bad mom." What makes a mother "bad," and why? Through the lens of pop culture and American history, Ej Dickson explores how this trope has evolved--from Victorian "angels in the house" to the infamous Mommie Dearest, from Instagram influencers like EmRata and Mormon momfluencers to fictional icons like The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.

Each chapter dives into a different archetype of so-called bad motherhood--like the Stage Mom, the Tiger Mom, the MILF, the MLM hun--challenging us to rethink our assumptions about femininity, parenting, and societal expectations. Drawing on insightful analysis and interviews, Dickson unpacks why our culture is obsessed with vilifying moms and how issues of race and class shape these narratives. Are bad moms truly "bad," or do they simply defy norms we don't fully understand--or fear?

This isn't just cultural commentary--it's a clarion call. Because if we really take a close look, we might find that some of the women we've reviled throughout history are due for a reassessment -- and in doing so, moms today may take some much-needed pressure off themselves. One Bad Mother invites moms everywhere to stop chasing impossible standards, reclaim their autonomy, and maybe--just maybe--enjoy motherhood for what it is, not what it's "supposed" to be.

Thoughtful, eye-opening, and downright funny at times, One Bad Mother is a vital exploration of modern motherhood.

Review Quotes

"Dickson writes with a refreshing absence of personal woebegoneness, and with empathy even for mothers whose practices and preferences differ vastly from her own." -The New Yorker

"This provocative critique will challenge readers' assumptions about motherhood." -Publisher's Weekly, starred review

"Brilliant, hilarious, and beautifully vulnerable, One Bad Mother will make you rethink your feelings about your own mom, your own mothering, and even your distaste for trad wives and Kris Jenner. I can't count the times I cried, only to crack up a sentence later and wonder how she knows so much about Joan Crawford." -Jessica Machado, author and senior editor at NBC News

"I was never going to be a mom, but thanks to Ej Dickson's One Bad Mother, even a blissfully childfree guy like me can gain some fresh, hilarious, piercing insight into what it means to fill that role. From the bottomless guilt to the petty rivalries, this is a book that stares down contemporary motherhood, with all its contradictions, and doesn't break eye contact. You'll want to thank (or forgive) your own mom as soon as you're finished." -Miles Klee, culture writer at Rolling Stone and author of True/False and Ivyland

"One Bad Mother is brilliant, razor-sharp, and hilarious. It will completely transform your views of motherhood. It's deeply researched and insightful, and expertly dismantles the idea of the "perfect mom." Dickson mixes real stories, pop culture, and smart commentary in a way that feels revealing but totally relatable. She writes with heart, wit, and a kind of honesty that feels like talking to your smartest, funniest, most insightful friend. This book is perfect for any mother, father, soon-to-be parent, or reader with an interest in our cultural views on motherhood. I cannot recommend this book highly enough!" -Taylor Lorenz, journalist and bestselling author of Extremely Online

"A fascinating exploration of the ways women are portrayed in pop culture. Dickson challenges our expectations of mothers and motherhood." -Fortesa Latifi, journalist and author of forthcoming Like, Follow, Subscribe

"Smart, spiky, and straight-up necessary, One Bad Mother undresses the landmined label 'bad mom' with wit and receipts. Ej Dickson turns our favorite moral panics into a clear-eyed invitation to ditch impossible standards and parent like a person." -Amanda Montell, NYT-bestselling author of Wordslut, Cultish, and The Age of Magical Overthinking

"This laugh-out-loud hilarious and timely book takes its readers on a memorable romp through pop cultural history. Dickson is never less than wildly entertaining, even as she makes a frank, heartfelt and wholly original argument as to why it's nearly impossible to be a "good mom" in America today." -Emily Gould, features writer at New York and author of And The Heart Says Whatever, Friendship, and Perfect Tunes

"A humorous and potent takedown of the criticism awaiting mothers at--and between--every extreme." -Kirkus

"In One Bad Mother, Ej Dickson bravely dares to suggest that mothers are . . . people. People who, despite undergoing the identity shift that attends motherhood, do not willingly go gentle into the good night of nonsensical binaries and maternal mandates. The notion that there's such a thing as a Good Mother or a Bad Mother is hilarious indeed, and Dickson underscores her razor sharp critiques of various forms of mommy propaganda with wit, nuance, and vulnerability. I am a Good Bad mom and I loved this book." -Sara Petersen, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture!

About the Author

Ej Dickson is a senior writer at New York magazine's The Cut. She previously worked as a senior writer for Rolling Stone and her writing has also been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, GQ, Elle, and many others. She lives with her family in Brooklyn, New York. Visit EjDickson.com for more information.