Smitten - by Tom Bellamy (Paperback)

Book Synopsis

A groundbreaking exploration of the psychology of infatuation, how to recognize it, and how to move beyond it towards a healthier experience of love.

"Butterflies" in the stomach, intrusive thoughts, fantasies about imaginary scenarios, mood swings from euphoria to despair... aren't these all the familiar hallmarks of new love? Not quite. These are characteristics of the psychological state of "limerence," also known as obsessive, passionate or addictive love that can become unhealthy.

Millions of people experience limerence at some point in their life. In this book, neuroscientist Tom Bellamy explores advances in neuroscience since the term was coined in the 1970s, and sheds light on this little-understood element of the human experience. Discover:

- what drives limerence
- how to recognize limerence in yourself and others
- how to manage the phases of addiction to another person
- how to move past it to sustain longer, more fulfilling relationships.

With supportive advice about next steps, this book will help readers struggling with unwanted feelings to find emotional equilibrium. Rooted in neuroscience, this book offers practical guidance for those experiencing obsessive love and seeking a path to a healthy relationship.

Review Quotes

"Neuroscientist Bellamy's book might last longer than a typical spell of limerence, ably distilling 50 years of research into accessible, engaging prose ... Illuminating and helpful."
--Library Journal

"As someone who has studied and written about the science of love, I find Dr Bellamy's Smitten to be a masterful exploration of limerence - one of love's most intense and mysterious manifestations. His unique integration of neuroscientific expertise with deep empathy for the limerent experience creates an invaluable resource for both professionals and those seeking to understand their own overwhelming romantic feelings."
--Dr. Liat Yakir, author of A Brief History of Love

"A wise and generous life raft for anyone lost in a crush."
--Natasha Lunn, author of Conversations on Love

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