Why Am I Doing Everything? - by Terri Bacow (Paperback)

About the Book

Moms aren't imagining it. Many of them really are doing the most. This timely guide addresses one of the most talked-about challenges in modern parenting: mom burnout and the profound weight of invisible mental load. Why Am I Doing Everything? combines cutting-edge psychological insight with practical, actionable tools to help readers rebalance responsibilities, transform resentment into renewal, and build more sustainable partnerships at home.

Book Synopsis

You aren't imagining it. You really are doing the most.

If you're a mom who's constantly juggling work, parenting, household responsibilities, and everyone else's needs (all while quietly carrying the mental load that keeps everything running), the burnout is real, and you're definitely not alone.

Why Am I Doing Everything? names what so many mothers are feeling but struggle to articulate: the exhaustion, the resentment, and the invisible weight of being the one who holds it all together. Written by a psychologist, this book goes beyond surface-level solutions to help you understand why this dynamic happens, even in loving partnerships, and how to finally change it.

This empowering guide will help you:

• Break the cycle of over-functioning and chronic burnout
• Set boundaries without guilt or conflict escalation
• Communicate your needs clearly and be heard
• Let go of perfectionism and unrealistic expectations
• Create a more balanced partnership
• Reclaim time, energy, and emotional space for yourself

You don't need to do more, try harder, or become a "better" version of yourself. You need a new way forward. This book will help you start building a life that actually feels sustainable.

About the Author

Terri Bacow, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and expert in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with a private practice in New York City. She is the author of Goodbye, Anxiety: A Guided Journal for Overcoming Worry and a frequent contributor to media outlets, podcasts, and her Psychology Today blog. She earned her doctorate in clinical psychology from Boston University and graduated from Brown University.