Why Do I Keep Doing This? - by Kati Morton (Hardcover)

About the Book

"Licensed family and marriage therapist Kati Morton explores [the] common struggle and contradiction with control. [She] shows how our upbringing and anxiety are often connected to our struggle to take up space. We can feel like we are too much by just existing in the same place as someone else, or that we are less deserving of their time and care. This struggle with asserting ourselves, or taking what we require, can harm our development. We sometimes think the only way to feel okay and get what we need is to please everyone else first. [This book may help] us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives"--

Book Synopsis

Leading mental health advocate and licensed marriage and family therapist, Kati Morton, explores our common struggle and contradiction with control in ourselves and relationships, giving readers the ability to not only ask themselves whydo I keep doing this, but have the insight to find a real answer.

Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that that our emotional reactions and responses should be controlled so we didn't embarrass or upset our parents and those around us. However, if that control oozes over into our relationships it's considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Control is a precarious thing. Some sides of control are meant to keep us safe, while others harm connections. So, what are we supposed to do?

In Why Do I Keep Doing This? licensed family and marriage therapist, Kati Morton, explores this common struggle and contradiction with control. Kati shows how our upbringing and anxiety are often connected to our struggle to take up space. We can feel like we are too much by just existing in the same place as someone else, or that we are less deserving of their time and care. This struggle with asserting ourselves, or taking what we require can harm our development. We sometimes think the only way to feel okay and get what we need is to please everyone else first. Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives. We all go through tough times and face uncertain futures, and we do what we can to cope, but as we get older and in an attempt to get wiser, we have to notice what behaviors are holding us back and change them.

Why Do I Keep Doing This? will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow Kati through some key points of growth in her own life while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book gives readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.

Review Quotes

"A powerful guide to breaking free from the exhausting cycle of control and stepping into a life built on trust, resilience, and self-acceptance." --Jay Shetty, #1 New York Times bestselling author and host of the On Purpose podcast

"This book made me stop and look at the ways I've tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn't shame us for our coping--she helps us understand it. That alone is healing."--Jonathan Van Ness

About the Author

Kati Morton is widely recognized as a leading mental health advocate and educator. She holds a masters in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a passion for education and empowerment and shares helpful insights through her YouTube channel. Kati is the author of three books, Are You Ok?, Traumatized, and Why Do I Keep Doing This? She hopes that by speaking candidly about mental health, and encouraging her viewers to reach out to get the support they need, we can remove the stigma associated with getting help.