The Secure Soul - by Cook (Paperback)

About the Book

A secure soul is built from the inside out. This book will guide you through the inner work of restoring your own sense of safety and trust---anchored in God's unshakable love---so that your foundation for all other connections becomes steady and strong.

Book Synopsis

Headline: We are the most psychologically informed generation ever--yet we have never felt more disconnected.

You want to feel connected with others, with yourself, and with God, but something still feels off. Part of you has been waiting a long time to be found. The Secure Soul, she offers a powerful new way forward. Drawing on attachment theory, parts-based insight, and her own journey through feeling disconnected from others and critical of herself, she shows why real security isn't built by knowing more or trying harder but by restoring loving connection within your own soul.

Because the issue isn't just what's happening around you. It's also what's happening within you.

The same ache you feel in your relationships--fear of being hurt, longing to belong, wanting to be seen and truly known--is also at work inside your own soul. Until your inner world becomes grounded and connected, it's hard to feel truly secure anywhere else.

The Secure Soul shows you how to build emotional and spiritual security from the inside out. You will learn how to:

• understand why you feel empty, anxious, or alone--even when life looks full
• identify the patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, self-neglect, and self-criticism
• tend to the parts of you still longing to feel safe and known
• experience deeper connection--with yourself, in your relationships, and with God
• discover a growing sense of safety and trust within yourself

A secure soul isn't something you achieve. It's something you come home to.

Review Quotes

'After enduring 2 divorces and managing life as a single mom in ministry I know what it feels like to be abandoned and to claw for the control that never promises connection. In The Secure Soul, Alison has so beautifully held our hand through a journey of building a secure foundation within our good bodies that not only withstands painful experiences, but calls us to a deeper level of flourishing--anyway. What a gift!'--Toni Collier, Author of Don't Try This Alone and Host of The Still Coloring Podcast

'Alison Cook was given to the church for such a time as this. Writing as both a trained therapist, a spiritual sage, and a devoted follower of Jesus, Cook engages one of the biggest felt needs of our generation, but with the kind of wisdom and authority our culture has not been able to provide. If you have ever struggled with identity or insecurity, you are going to soak up every word of this book!'--Sharon Hodde Miller, Author of Free of Me, Why Life Is Better When It's Not about You

'In The Secure Soul, Alison Cook reminds you that healing is not about becoming someone altogether new as much as returning to the Love that has been holding you all along. With the tenderness and wisdom we've come to expect of her, Alison helps you recognize the places where you've become disconnected and gently guides you back toward connection, presence, and security in both your deepest self and in God. This is a deeply rich psychological and spiritual companion.'--Chuck DeGroat, PhD, Professor of Pastoral Care and Executive Director of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Western Theological Seminary; author of When Narcissism Comes to Church and Who You're Becoming

'We are complex beings. We bear the artistry of God's glory. We embody the burden of our foreparents' brokenness. An honest soul doesn't need to be convinced of the need for healing. Too often, the offer of healing becomes a spiritual bypass that avoids the reality of our divided heart. Alison is a generous, compellingly honest, and kind guide who entreats us to listen to our often-ignored or hated inner parts and to taste the kindness of God. This labor of love is beautifully written and a healing companion on your life walk.'--Dan B. Allender, Ph.D., Professor of Counseling Psychology, Founding President The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology

'With The Secure Soul, Alison Cook had not merely offered us a book to be read. Rather, she has prepared for us a feast, one with several courses, each of which could be--but should not be--devoured. No, they must instead be slowly ingested, digested and metabolized. For herein lie words of vulnerability, healing, conviction, and recommissioning upon which the reader must meditate slowly over time so as not to miss the depth and richness of what we have come to know and expect from our author. Read this, and encounter the liminality of the God of love who is with us.'--Curt Thompson, MD, Psychiatrist and Author, Anatomy of the Soul and The Deepest Place