Too Much - by Terri Cole

About the Book

Are you the person doing it all for everyone but yourself? With Too Much, Terri Cole presents a life-saving guide to recovery from what she calls high-functioning codependency (HFC). Each chapter brings you insights and practices to transform how you see yourself and the world, honor your own needs, and reclaim the freedom and joy you deserve.

Book Synopsis

An insightful and empowering new take on codependent behavior, revealing the underlying reasons we struggle with over-giving and overdoing

When you hear the word "codependent," you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole certainly did. But after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviors that fell outside of the classic model. Terri calls this new paradigm "high-functioning codependency" (HFC).

The ironic truth with high-functioning codependency is that the more capable you are, the more your behavior doesn't actually seem codependent. "As HFCs, our desire to feel at peace often drives us to chronic over-functioning and overinvestment with the loved ones in our lives," says Terri. "Even with those we don't love... or sometimes with folks we barely know." Here, Terri breaks down the characteristics of high-functioning codependency--including how to identify one's "HFC blueprint"--so you can get more clarity around what's going on under the surface of your behavior and take steps toward better boundaries, self-care, and integrity.

You'll walk away with a clear understanding of how you relate to others and the world... with a newfound inner peace. With the teachings and tools in Too Much, now you can break the cycle of overdoing and over-giving and start living a more authentic and joyful life.

Review Quotes

"Too Much reveals how our deepest compulsions to help and heal others can unexpectedly lead us away from our true selves. A transformative read that offers a pathway to reclaim your personal power and emotional integrity." --Dr. Shefali, New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and The Parenting Map

"This is a crash course for anyone who can do it all and suffers because of it. With masterful storytelling and expert techniques, Too Much will teach you how to stop protecting others over protecting yourself." --Elizabeth Earnshaw, author of I Want This to Work and 'Til Stress Do Us Part

"Terri Cole brilliantly expands the definition of codependency, revealing its hidden impact on high-functioning individuals. Her transformative guidance helps you move from constant over-functioning to true fulfillment and balance." --Minaa B., author of Owning Our Struggles

"Terri Cole has broken the mold and dared to define a whole new area of codependency--and she's showing us how to break the chains." --Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art

"This book is everything we need it to be--honest, sincere, and practical. Cole dismantles the misconceptions surrounding codependency, inviting readers into a judgment-free zone where shifts and breakthroughs are possible." --Sara Kuburic, author of It's On Me

"Too Much can help you get out of the guilt caretaking mode and into your own personal power and self-care. I highly recommend it." --Daniel G. Amen, MD, author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life

"This book has become my bible! As someone who didn't know all the nuances and intricacies of being a high-functioning codependent, I feel like this book called me out in the most loving way. Not only does Terri have such actionable and poignant insights, but she approaches it with such levity and grace. I will never be the same after reading this book and suggest it to any modern woman of today." --Krista Williams, cohost of the Almost 30 podcast

"Too Much is a powerful guide for anyone that has ever fallen into the trap of 'doing too much' at the cost of their own well-being. If you are looking for a psychologically backed book that is grounded with real, actionable steps, this is for you. Let the power of this book transform you to being a better you, living a healthier life, and having balanced relationships that HONOR YOUR needs. Too Much is a must-read." --Christine Gutierrez, author of I Am Diosa

About the Author

Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. For over two decades, she has worked with a diverse group of clients, from stay-at-home moms to celebrities to Fortune 500 CEOs. Gifted at making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so clients and students achieve sustainable change, she inspires millions of people through her blog, social media, signature courses, and popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. See terricole.com.