Beyond Done With The Crying - by Sheri McGregor (Paperback)

About the Book

In Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children, Sheri McGregor debunks the faulty thinking and nonsensical advice, and offers sensible solutions to steer the whole family forward.

Book Synopsis

Beyond Done With the Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children contains new information and tools to help parents steer the whole family forward.

• Listen as siblings reveal their turmoil.
• Learn how cultural and familial patterns can influence estrangement or reconciliation.
• Hear from parents what reconciling really takes.

Then make sound decisions . . . and heal.

This follow-up to Sheri McGregor's highly regarded Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children (2016) draws from her survey of more than 50,000 parents of estranged adult children, as well as her personal experiences and hundreds of interviews with hurting families. She debunks the faulty thinking and advice of this blame-the-parent era, and provides sensible alternatives that support your well-being. McGregor's reflection points and innovative exercises promote growth and help you connect with your personal integrity and strength.

Ten thorough chapters contain relevant research, reflection questions, exercises, and common-sense advice about the gritty, complex issues parents of estranged adult children face. Expand your self-awareness, strengthen your resilience, and make sound decisions for your life, your family, and your happiness. Gain wisdom from other parents and grandparents, as well as from the grandchildren and siblings.

All parents make mistakes. Some have deep regrets for things they did or didn't do. In one chapter, these parents share how they believe they fell short and how they're managing. How long must a parent bow to guilt, pay penance, and make amends? And, deplorably, do some adult children exploit their guilt? These and other questions are answered.

For any parent of estranged adult children, reconciling may be a solo sport. Even when reconciliations do occur, their success requires wisdom and strength. That's why it's so important to empower yourself, make positive changes, and reclaim your life, even while waiting and continuing to reach out (if you choose to).

Beyond Done With The Crying: More Answers and Advice for Parents of Estranged Adult Children is filled with information and solutions to the complex, real-life problems that plague parents of estranged adult children and their families.

Estrangement leaves a confusing and frustrating legacy for the entire family. McGregor knows firsthand the grit, courage, and determination it takes to reclaim identity, remain a supportive parent to other children, and help the family move forward. In Beyond Done With the Crying, she helps you do the same.

Review Quotes

"Sheri McGregor has written an incredibly powerful, helpful book for those

who have experienced parent-child estrangement. Through real-life stories

and her own insight and expertise, she offers tips, tools, and resources to help

parents navigate through difficult emotions. The book includes many self-help

exercises that guide the reader toward better health, healing, forgiveness, and

acceptance. Beyond Done helps parents change their thinking and their actions

so they can move forward in their lives with self-compassion to find meaning,

fulfillment, and yes, even joy. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has

experienced, or has an interest in, parent-child estrangement."

-Janet Singer, author of Overcoming OCD: A Journey to Recovery

"Sheri McGregor has conducted hundreds of interviews and done extensive

research on the subject of estrangement. From the data she collected and

from her personal experience, she explores the many challenges of estrangement.

This book is an important contribution to understanding and navigating

this surprisingly common family tragedy. Beyond Done offers invaluable

support and guidance for those seeking a new life of purpose, self-respect,

love, and peace."

-Nancy Lee Klune, author of Banished, a Grandmother Alone

"A must-read for parents of estranged adult children. An essential book for

the professionals who work with them. This new book by Sheri McGregor

is a valuable addition to the literature available for parents and families who

have experienced the pain and trauma of estrangement. The tone is one of a

compassionate and dear friend, sharing hard truths with you and letting your

pain wash away. At some point the why is not as important as the what. The cruel behavior,

the lies, the on again off again infrequent contact, the rewritten history, the

untrue accusations, the merry-go-round of hope, and the baseless demands

combined with a culture that tends to blame and shame parents, especially

mothers, cause a deep grief and a hole in the heart. What this book does is

realign the facts with the behaviors and offers solutions to parents who are

hurting and traumatized. All parents make mistakes. Few parents make ones

that are so egregious that estrangement is the best solution. All in all, Sheri

offers a blueprint for bouncing forward from this trauma and strengthening

one's resilience."

-Mara J. Briere, MA, CFLE, Grow a Strong Family, Inc.

(https: //growastrongfamily.org/)

"In her new book, Beyond Done With The Crying, Sheri McGregor addresses

the sorrows and triumphs of estrangement through the real-life stories of

people doing their best to survive the trauma of estrangement. To help with

the goal of acceptance, and to gain strength and understanding in recovering,

the author introduces several exercises. These help readers recognize

and examine their thoughts and actions and gain awareness on a journey of

understanding and self-growth. Sheri encourages us to take charge of our

own lives and our own health, which is key to our well-being.

Whether you are just now beginning this journey or you are moving

steadily toward acceptance of estrangement and your own wellness, this

book gives you various avenues to self-exploration and healing. I, for one,

am eager to more fully explore these exercises, remembering that taking care

of me will equal a happier future."

-Claire L. Cunning, author of Poems from the Heart for Hope and Healing:

For those who have experienced estrangement from a loved one