Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens - by Kim John Payne & Luis Fernando Llosa (Paperback)

About the Book

"The teen years are rife with social landmines in school, sports, and other activities--and instances of teasing, bullying, and exclusion are unfortunately all too common. Social media has only made this behavior easier and more insidious. But when kids learn to respond effectively, manage their emotions in the situation, and recognize their self-worth, they can reclaim a sense of their own power, and develop skills for life. Kim John Payne, an education consultant, and parenting expert, offers guidance in tandem with ten inspirational stories by young adults who have navigated bullying and social exclusion--and triumphed. It gives teens the tools to address the problem themselves, giving them mastery over the situation--rather than having parents step in and try to "fix" things. Parents, teens, and educator learn critical anti-bullying skills and strategies including How to figure out why you are being teased How to handle rumors How to deal with physical bullying How to break out of feeling everybody hates you How to develop an empowered attitude when dealing with a bully How to deal with overbearing or bullying brothers or sisters How to differentiate tattletaling from truth-telling How to stand up for others without making it worse for yourself How to make real friends And much more Payne says, "You can't control what comes at you in life, but you absolutely can control where and how you meet it," and this book helps kids understand that while they can't necessarily make a bully stop, they can absolutely stand their ground and take their power back. They can strongly influence the whole situation rather than feel they have to passively accept what is happening. This is essential reading for anyone with teens in their life, to help them experience their own power, find their own voices, learn how to problem-solve, and navigate their way out of challenging situations"--

Book Synopsis

Essential reading for parents of grade schoolers through teens experiencing bullying, social exclusion, and teasing--with uplifting stories from young adults who have navigated those experiences and triumphed.

The tween and teen years are rife with intense social challenges in school, friendships, sports, and other activities where instances of teasing, bullying, social exclusion and marginalization are unfortunately all too common. Social media has only made this behavior easier and more insidious. But when kids ages 9 and up can be coached by a parent to respond effectively, manage their emotions in social situations, and recognize their own self-worth, they can reclaim a sense of their own power and develop skills like resilience, social and emotional intelligence and compassion for life.

Kim John Payne, a leading education consultant and parenting expert, and Luis Fernando Llosa, a writer and longtime sports coach, offer guidance and practical advice to parents, along with ten inspirational stories in the voice of young adults who have navigated bullying, teasing and social exclusion--and triumphed. The Emotionally Resilient Child gives tweens and teens the tools to address the problem themselves and develop mastery over the situation--rather than having parents step in and try to "fix" things. This book also gives parents vital proactive strategies to help build strong family relationships, trust and connection, so that kids can be better prepared for the inevitable social challenges life brings.

About the Author

KIM JOHN PAYNE, M. ED, has been a counselor, educator, consultant, and researcher for twenty-seven years. He is the author of the widely acclaimed book Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline and Being at Your Best When Your Children Are at Their Worst, and co-author of Beyond Winning: Smart Parenting in a Toxic Sports Environment.He regularly gives keynote addresses at international conferences for educators, parents, and therapists and runs workshops and trainings around the world. LUIS FERNANDO LLOSA is an award-winning Peruvian American sports writer, editor, speaker, investigative reporter and youth sports consultant who has worked with kids and teens as a sports coach for 25 years. He co-authored Beyond Winning: Smart Parenting in a Toxic Sports Environment and has made more than 500 national and local television and radio appearances.