The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy - by Coby Kozlowski (Hardcover)

About the Book

A guide for those navigating longing, pain, desire, and the unspoken ache that comes with being human. Drawing from yoga philosophy, instinctive meditation, and personal inquiry, this book is a sacred invitation: to allow the ache to exist, to soften toward it, and to discover its wisdom.

Book Synopsis

The ache you feel is not a problem to be solved--it's a sacred wake-up call to truth, beauty, and wonder.

We are all aching, but so few of us know how to be with and attend to the complexities that surround these aches. You may ache because you hurt, because you have lost someone or something, because you long for something more or for something to be different. Yet aches are not necessarily a sign you are heading in the wrong direction. Instead, they may offer a sacred opportunity to develop a more intimate relationship with life itself. When you choose to stay with your ache and get curious about it, you gain a potential for awakening: to truth, to remembering your wholeness, to the interconnectedness of the seen and unseen, to belonging, or to the next evolution of yourself.

The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy is a guide for those navigating longing, pain, desire, and the unspoken aches that come with being human. Rather than pathologizing our pain or rushing to fix it, this book offers an invitation: to allow the ache to exist, to soften toward it, and to discover its wisdom. Author, philosopher, and meditation educator Coby Kozlowski explores how the ache is an invitation to come home to your wholeness.

The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy is an experiential journey. Drawing from yoga philosophy and Instinctive Meditation, it offers accessible practices and opportunities for personal inquiry that provide a path to awakening, to seeing your ache--and your life--in a new way.

Review Quotes

"The heart is a musical instrument, always vibrating with love. The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy is a path guiding you to listen to its music, enter the rhythms of life, and tolerate the tenderness, longing, and wonder that is the essence of the heart. Coby Kozlowski is a brilliant and skilled teacher who offers this companion for practicing intimacy with your own heart, your own tenderness, as you discover again and again that even your ache shimmers with holiness." --Lorin Roche, PhD, author of The Radiance Sutras

"Coby Kozlowski brings the same clarity and compassion to this book that she brings to her teaching. The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy is a wise and practical guide to the tender places of the heart. Every page holds a jewel of insight and care. I guarantee it will open you to your own wholeness." --Stephen Cope, bestselling author of The Great Work of Your Life

"As someone who has spent my life exploring transformation, I believe this book is a companion for anyone on the path of awakening and self-discovery. Whether you're deep in grief, navigating change, or just craving a deeper relationship with yourself, this book will open you in the best way possible." --Justin Michael Williams, Grammy-nominated artist and author of Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us

"As a therapist who's witnessed countless clients try to bypass their pain, I can say this book offers something revolutionary yet ancient: permission to feel it all. The Six A's framework gives us what somatic and mindfulness research has been pointing toward--a way to be with our aches that doesn't spiritually bypass or pathologize our pain, but honors the profound wisdom held in the tender places we often fear to explore. With this book, Coby Kozlowski brings us a compassionate guide that bridges the gap between evidence-based practice and the sacred work of becoming whole." --Gina Moffa, LCSW, grief and trauma therapist in New York City, and author of Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss

"Through her eloquence and clarity, Kozlowski shows us how to hold space for that ache, unravel it, and ultimately reintegrate it into a hum of aliveness. The meditation practices alone are gems--practical, inviting, and deeply resonant--but it is the book as a whole that I will return to again and again as a companion in remembering my wholeness." --Lara Heimann, MS, PT, ERYT-500, creator and founder of the LYT Yoga Method

"From the moment I began reading The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy, I felt held and welcomed by this necessary book. Coby Kozlowski's wisdom comes through in the accessible voice of a kind and caring friend. At a distressing time in all of our lives, she has given us a map back to our truest self, back to a deeper presence in this broken and beautiful world." --James Crews, author of Turning Toward Grief, Unlocking the Heart, and Kindness Will Save the World

"As a friend and colleague, I can say this book is a rare gift--an honest, compassionate guide that meets us right where we are. Coby Kozlowski has a way of turning what feels unbearable into a doorway to wisdom, offering practices that are both accessible and deeply transformative. The Ache in Your Heart Is Holy is not just something to read, but something to return to again and again." --Rolf Gates, director of the Kripalu School of Yoga and author of Meditations from the Mat: Daily Reflections on the Path of Yoga