The Strategic Use of Fidelity in Romantic Relationships - by James K Beggan (Hardcover)

About the Book

This book offers a bold reinterpretation of monogamy, framing it not as a reflection of romantic desire but as a calculated effort to secure exclusivity from a partner.

Book Synopsis

This book offers a bold reinterpretation of monogamy, framing it not as a reflection of romantic desire but as a calculated effort to secure exclusivity from a partner.
Despite widespread dissatisfaction, infidelity, and high divorce rates, monogamy remains the dominant relationship model. Rather than attributing this persistence to irrationality or tradition, James K. Beggan explores monogamy as a defensive practice-a strategic agreement in which individuals seek commitment primarily to ensure their partner's fidelity. Rooted in fear of loss, jealousy, and emotional insecurity, this book reveals how monogamy often functions as a protective mechanism rather than a mutual aspiration. People overestimate their ability-or willingness-to uphold monogamous commitments, viewing them less as personal convictions and more as tools for managing risk. Drawing on interdisciplinary research across behavioral economics, psychology, sociology, and decision science, this book reconceptualizes monogamy as a form of social bargaining. By shifting the focus from morality to strategy, it challenges the ideal of romantic exclusivity and raises a provocative question: Are declarations of loyalty expressions of love, or are they evidence of doubt dressed as devotion?

Review Quotes

The Strategic Use of Fidelity in Romantic Relationships trades moral panic for precision. It shows how control can masquerade as care, then offers language and tools to separate fear from values and to build agreements that fit real lives. Rigorous yet humane, it favors consent as practice, clarity about boundaries, and honest talk about risk and desire. As a scholar of ethics and communication, I admired its steadiness and respect for readers' values. As a reader, I felt seen. A smart, compassionate companion for anyone trying to keep love and honesty in the same room.
Patrick R. Johnson, Assistant Professor of Journalism and Media Studies, Marquette University, USA

A thought-provoking and deeply nuanced exploration of one of the most complex human arrangements: monogamy. This book deftly examines the interplay between fidelity, self-protection, and the human need for connection, offering readers fresh insight into the strategies and motivations that shape romantic commitment.
Scott T. Allison, Professor Emeritus, University of Richmond, USA

About the Author

James K. Beggan is professor of sociology at the University of Louisville.