Your Kids Are Grown: Parenting 2.0 - by Francine Toder Ph D (Paperback)

About the Book

Your Kids are Grown: Parenting 2.0 brings together effective tools for forging new parent and adult-child relationships. The book offers an extensive set of support materials and exercises for the reader to become more skilled in parenting adult-children. Psychologist/author, Francine Toder, Ph.D., describes and offers solutions for the many situations that are sources of major or minor conflict between parents and their adult-children, including personality and style differences, disappointed expectations, conflicting values, competition between adult siblings, and differing views of adult responsibilities. A bonus section focuses on a review and revamping of personal and couple life goals.

Book Synopsis

Your Kids are Grown: Parenting 2.0 brings together effective tools for forging new parent and adult-child relationships, while emphasizing a review and revamping of personal and couple life goals, Dr. Toder, a clinical psychologist and emeritus university faculty member with expertise in parenting skills and midlife transitions, focuses on middle and late adulthood, a stage of life that can bring about significant personal growth, but also parental frustration and disappointment in relationship to their adult-children. In clear and understandable language, she describes and offers solutions for the many situations that are sources of major or minor conflict between parents and their adult-children, especially personality and style differences, disappointed expectations, conflicting values, competition between adult siblings, and differing views of adult responsibilities, and much more. Parenting 2.0 offers an extensive set of support materials and exercises for the reader to become more skilled in parenting adult-children.

Review Quotes

In Your Kids Are Grown: Parenting 2.0, psychologist Francine Toder, PhD, offers compassionate guidance for parents navigating tricky relationships with their adult children. With practical tools and heartfelt insight, this excellent, highly informative book helps you move past conflict and confusion to build a stronger, more respectful connection.

--Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD, author of 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child

"...enormously helpful Dr. Toder puts the inevitable evolution of families into perspective and offers the kind of practical, helpful wisdom that can lead to better communication in families. Communicating with children as adults is entirely different from relating to them when they are young--and every bit as important. This significant book gives advice on how to succeed in that new territory."

--Virginia Kidd, Ph.D., Professor Emerita of Communication Studies, California State University, Sacramento, California

"When your kids are grown, parenting doesn't end--it evolves. In Your Kids Are Grown: Parenting 2.0, psychologist Francine Toder, Ph.D., offers a powerful, compassionate roadmap for navigating the sometimes challenging emotional terrain of parenting adult children. With warmth, wisdom, and decades of clinical experience, Toder shows how old patterns can sabotage connection--and how new skills, deeper understanding, and a renewed sense of purpose can transform strained ties into strong, respectful relationships. And when that's impossible, Toder provides a way to manage the challenges of a distant or unsatisfying relationship. Packed with relatable examples, practical exercises, and hopeful insights, this book is an essential guide for parents who want more than just occasional phone calls or polite holidays--they want real, lasting connection."

--Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., author: Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict

About the Author

Francine Toder, Ph.D. is a faculty emerita of California State University, Sacramento and is a clinical psychologist retired from private practice. She is also the author of four books and is currently working on her fifth. Her extensive writing on diverse topics has appeared in magazines, professional journals, newspapers, blog sites such as Huffington Post, Next Avenue, Psychology Today, and chapters in edited books. She resides with her husband in the San Francisco Bay Area where she practices the cello daily.