Begin Again, and Again, and Again - by Alessandra Olanow (Hardcover)

Book Synopsis

A luminous illustrated meditation on transformation as practice--for anyone learning to live with life's cycles of breaking open and rebuilding.

Illustrator and author Alessandra Olanow knows that life never unfolds as you think it will. After divorce, her mother's death, and the quiet unraveling of a carefully built life, she found herself awake at 3 a.m. with questions that wouldn't settle: Is this all there is? What do I do when everything comes undone? How do I stay open when I want to close down?

Begin Again, and Again, and Again started as notes to herself in those wakeful hours--a practice of thinking through images and words to map the territory of uncertainty. What emerged is a book about the fundamental rhythm of being human: the constant cycle of questioning, doubt, finding ground, opening, and beginning again.

Through watercolor illustrations integrated with personal narrative and philosophical reflection drawing on Buddhism, Stoicism, and lived experience, Alessandra offers not answers but companionship. The book moves through five movements like a breath--Question, Doubt, Ground, Open, Renewal--holding the particular texture of each stage. The hollowness of Is this all there is? The weight of I think I can't. The surprising fertility of hitting bottom. The radical simplicity of presence.

Here's permission to stop waiting for the final version of yourself. To trust that transformation isn't about arriving but about learning to live with constant change.

It's never too late to begin again.

Review Quotes

"Olanow brings readers into her internal world with Begin Again, delicately and beautifully depicting the subtle murmurs of awakening present within us all."--Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Finding Your Way

"Olanow transforms the pain of unraveling into the art of becoming with words and illustrations that make you feel deeply seen. This book holds space for all the versions of yourself you've been and all the ones you're becoming."
--Yung Pueblo, #1 NYT Bestselling Author

With reminders to relinquish our grasp, choose our focus, and select which thoughts we believe, Alessandra's words and illustrations are an invitation to rewrite the narrative and remember that the ache is a good place to Begin Again, and Again, and Again. --Elena Brower, bestselling author and artist of Practice You and Hold Nothing

About the Author

Alessandra Olanow is the illustrator and author of I Used to Have a Plan (Harper Design, 2021) and Hello Grief (Harper Design, 2023). Her work explores life's unexpected turns with honesty and grace, drawing from her own experiences with loss, reinvention, and the courage to begin again. She has also worked as a death doula, an experience that deepened her understanding of life's cycles of transformation and renewal. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her daughter, Coco.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​