Choose Your Self - by Megan Sherer (Paperback)

About the Book

In this guide to self-awareness and compassion for single women struggling with unhealthy dating and relationship patterns, expert coach and therapist Megan Sherer shares potent reflection prompts, somatic exercises, and self-care practices to move beyond personal obstacles and build a rock-solid foundation for your relationship with self.

Book Synopsis

"A liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within." --Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up

If you've been waiting for your life to start once your relationship status changes, it's time to rethink things and learn to choose your self first. We often relate to singlehood as a phase that should be rushed and remedied by finding a partner, rather than relating to it as our most potent opportunity for growth. But if the priority is on being chosen over being the one to choose, you're more likely to keep ending up with the wrong partner. It's time to break these old patterns and embrace single life with compassion. "One of the great advantages of spending time intentionally single," shares expert coach and therapist Megan Sherer, "is having time to self-reflect, to learn from your past, and to experiment with new ways of being. Key word: intentionally."

Sherer teaches how to fall in love with your own life and be unwilling to waver in the pursuit of a relationship as strong as the one you build within your self. Using personal story as well as potent reflection prompts, somatic exercises, and self-care practices, she shepherds you through the process of moving beyond attachment wounds to new levels of self-awareness to build a rock-solid foundation for your relationship with self. If you have an interest in partnering in the future, you'll also discover how to do so in a way that allows you to remain true to your self. Here you'll uncover:

- Clarity in defining your desires
- How your attachment style has impacted your relationships
- Why you keep choosing emotionally unavailable people
- What your patterns are and how to clean up old habits
- How to manage your nervous system and heal your inner child
- The magic of doing the things you thought you needed a partner for

It's time to move from the disempowered experience of loneliness to an empowered version of singlehood--one filled with joy, adventure, play, passion, and all the other things that you thought you had to wait for the perfect person to experience. You are that person, and that time is now.

Review Quotes

"Choose Your Self is a relatable and clear guide for embracing the relationship you have with the most important person in your life--you. I highly recommend it!" --Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, author of 'Til Stress Do Us Part

"Choose Your Self by Megan Sherer gives such beautiful, accessible tools to come home to your truest self and to fall in love with your life along the way." --Ruthie Lindsey, speaker, transformational coach, and author of There I Am

"Choose Your Self is a breath of fresh air for all the women who have been choking on incomplete dating advice that leaves self-compassion out of the equation. This is a book for a generation of women who, more than anything, long to be seen. Megan's words will leave you feeling lighter, yet somehow more whole at the same time." --Parm K.C., author of You Will Feel Whole Again and Eggshells

"Relationships come and go... but the relationship to yourself always remains. Megan Sherer is both correct and insightful in her assertion that the relationship we have to ourselves is perhaps the most important one we ever have, and navigating that with compassion, doses of self-care, and a healthy amount of self-worth is critical for developing strong relationships--first with ourself, before anyone else. I applaud Megan's forthrightness in acknowledging the plight of the modern woman who is saddled with so much pressure and expectation, and giving her the freedom to choose what is most right for her." --Alanna Kaivalya, PhD, author of The Way of the Satisfied Woman

"Choose Your Self is a liberating guide for every woman ready to embrace her own worth, heal deeply, and find fulfillment from within. Megan Sherer's compassionate wisdom provides the tools to break free from societal expectations, nurturing the most crucial relationship we have: the one with ourselves. If you're ready to put yourself first and build a life you genuinely love, this book is a powerful place to start." --Wendy Valentine, host of The Midlife Makeover Show and author of Women Waking Up

"Choose Your Self feels like a warm hug and a wake-up call rolled into one. Megan beautifully reminds us that the love we are fervently searching for is already ours and begins with the person in the mirror. This book is not here to tell you that you should just be OK with being single--it's about realizing that nothing from the outside can make you whole. You are already whole! Her words shake you up from the inside and rearrange the belief that romantic love is superior in such a way that both single-dom and partnership become extraneous when you are able to drink from the well of self-love each and every day. If you're ready to stop waiting for life to start and ready to choose love, this book is for you." --Samantha Chung, cohost of the Spiraling Higher podcast

"Choose Your Self is an empowering guide for any woman who gets that the relationships we desire with others start with the relationship we have with ourselves. Megan has pulled together many inspiring, practical, and enlightening ways to stop feeling bad about your relationship status and instead focus your energy on exploring and enjoying the deeper vs. superficial path of self-love." --Christine Arylo, leadership advisor, author, and founder of The Path of Self Love

About the Author

Megan Sherer is a certified somatic therapist and licensed hypnotherapist whose mission is to help others connect to their most authentic expression of love. She teaches women how to prioritize self-care to build confidence, healthy relationships, and a strong sense of purpose. She hosts the Well, Then podcast and founded the nonprofit organization Be More and the self-guided therapy app The Self Care Space. She lives in Washington and travels to lead women's retreats. For more, visit megansherer.com.