Don't Call It Love - by Gregory L Jantz & Tim Clinton & Ann McMurray (Paperback)

About the Book

Readers discover how to break the relationship dependency cycle and find wholeness in the God who designed them to be in relationship first and foremost with him, thus freeing them to find healthy relationships with others.

Book Synopsis

"You complete me" may be a romantic line in a popular movie, but it's not a healthy basis for a real relationship. Unfortunately, many people are drawn into relationships that are unfulfilling precisely because they are looking to other people to fill in the places where they are lacking--they are looking for a person who will "complete" them. At the heart of relationship dependency is a person's belief that he or she alone is not enough. But using others to provide wholeness simply does not work, because while we are made to be relationship dependent, it is God we must turn to in order to find wholeness.

In a warm, engaging style, Drs. Jantz and Clinton walk readers through patterns of relationship dependency, helping them unravel why they are drawn back to the same dry well of unfulfilled relationships over and over again. Readers will discover how to break the cycle, banish their fears, and find wholeness in the God who designed them to be in relationship first and foremost with him, thus freeing them to find healthy relationships with others. Includes a twelve-week personal recovery plan.

From the Back Cover

Do you fall into the same dead-end relationships time after time?

Are you still searching for that one person who will make you feel complete?

What if that's not actually what you need to feel happy and fulfilled?

When we look to other people to fill in the places where we are lacking, our relationships are virtually guaranteed to be unfulfilling. Because at the heart of this kind of relationship is a belief that alone we are not enough. Nothing could be further from the truth.

In a warm, engaging style, Drs. Jantz and Clinton help you unravel why you're drawn back to the same types of people and relationships over and over again. You'll learn how to break the cycle of relationship dependency, focus on finding wholeness as a unique individual, and discover the key to finding a healthy relationship that lasts.


Dr. Gregory L. Jantz is the award-winning and bestselling author of more than twenty-five books, including Controlling Your Anger before It Controls You and Hope and Healing from Emotional Abuse. He is the founder of the Center for Counseling and Health Resources, Inc. (www.aplaceofhope.com) in Washington and hosts a popular radio program, Overcoming with Dr. Jantz.

Dr. Tim Clinton is president of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), executive director of the Center for Counseling and Family Studies, professor of counseling and pastoral care at Liberty University and Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary, and a licensed professional counselor. He is also the coauthor of the Quick-Reference Guide to Counseling series of books.

Ann McMurray has coauthored several books, including Controlling Your Anger before It Controls You. She lives in Washington and is operations manager at the Center for Counseling and Health Resources, Inc.

About the Author

Gregory L. Jantz, PhD, is the award-winning and bestselling author of more than twenty-five books, including Controlling Your Anger Before It Controls You and Hope and Healing from Emotional Abuse. He is the founder of The Center for Counseling & Health Resources, Inc., (www.aplaceofhope.com) in Washington, and hosts a popular radio program, Overcoming with Dr. Jantz. A frequent guest on various radio and TV shows, Jantz is also a regular columnist for the Huffington Post.

Dr. Tim Clinton is president of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), executive director of the Center for Counseling and Family Studies, professor of counseling and pastoral care at Liberty University and Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary, and a licensed professional counselor. He is also the coauthor of the Quick-Reference Guide to Counseling series of books.

Ann McMurray has coauthored several books, including Controlling Your Anger Before It Controls You. She lives in Washington.