The Emotionally Savvy Divorce - by Jd (Paperback)

Book Synopsis

Harness your emotions and negotiate effectively for a healthier post-divorce future.

Your emotions don't have to be a liability. When properly understood, your feelings during a divorce can be invaluable guides to fair settlements, better communication, and a brighter future. Through candid client stories and step-by-step exercises, veteran divorce attorney and experienced mediator Katherine Miller helps you turn emotional turmoil into a negotiation advantage--so you can walk away with a settlement that respects both your needs and your future.

Miller reframes the divorce process as an emotional transition rather than just a legal battle and adapts business negotiation techniques to untangling the knot of shared finances, parenting, and identity. She exposes the hidden traps couples often fall into and teaches you to recognize what truly matters so you can preserve your mental well-being. Then she shifts to a practical deep dive on how to negotiate effectively: how to identify your core interests, leverage your emotions at the bargaining table, and handle high-conflict situations without escalating tensions. With insights into proposal structuring and conflict resolution techniques, Miller guides you toward a final agreement that feels equitable and respects everyone involved.

By placing empathy and strategy on equal footing, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers a fresh, humane approach to dissolving a marriage. Drawing from her substantial background in collaborative law and mediation, Katherine Miller delivers a blueprint for a clean break--one where you stay true to yourself, keep your family's best interests at heart, and come away with a settlement that supports a stable future. If you're facing divorce and want to stay in control--of your emotions, your negotiations, and your future--this book will give you the tools to navigate the toughest conversations and secure a settlement that truly works for you.

Review Quotes

"This book is a compassionate, practical guide to navigating divorce in a healthier way. Even in high-conflict situations, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce shows how you can negotiate strategically and move forward with clarity and confidence." --Bill Eddy, lawyer, therapist, mediator, co-founder of the High Conflict Institute, and author of Splitting and BIFF for Coparent Communication

"One of the most helpful divorce books I've read... I truly wish this book had existed during my own divorce." --Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling

"Divorce can be reactive. Katherine E. Miller shows a different way. She offers a brighter and workable vision of divorce, ending in an agreement where both partners are seen and heard. Bravo." --Mark Banschick, MD, author of The Intelligent Divorce

"Katherine E. Miller shows how to turn even the most charged feelings into clarity and wise decisions. You'll want this compassionate and empowering guide by your side." --Jeffrey Davis, strategist, speaker, author of Tracking Wonder

"Divorcing without emotional bankruptcy? Yes, it's possible. This book is your financial and emotional advisor in one--a must-read for anyone ready to turn the page with grace, grit, and dignity." --Stacy Francis, president and CEO of Francis Financial and founder of Savvy Ladies

"Engaging and beautifully written, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce is an essential blueprint for navigating divorce while preserving everyone's humanity. I only wish it had been available during my own divorce. A must-read." --Jenny Douglas, founder of The Brooklyn Cottage

About the Author

Katherine E. Miller, JD, is a divorce attorney, mediator, and founder of the Miller Law Group, a New York-based firm committed to helping clients navigate divorce with clarity, dignity, and deep respect for family dynamics. She founded the firm with a simple but powerful intention: to treat clients as people first and to truly protect the interests of their children throughout the divorce process. Her podcast, Divorce Dialogues, explores relationships, parenting, and life after divorce.
Miller's mission is to empower people to divorce without destruction--focusing instead on values, strategy, and emotional intelligence. She is co-author of the #1 Amazon bestseller A Cup of Coffee with 10 of the Top Divorce Attorneys in the United States and author of The New Yorker's Guide to Collaborative Divorce. Her insights have been featured by CBS New York, NBC, The New York Times, Money Magazine, HuffPost, TheStreet.com, and more.