The Zen of You and Me - by Diane Musho Hamilton (Paperback)

About the Book

"A minicourse in how to deal with interpersonal conflict--from a Zen perspective. With her book, her hugely popular online courses, and her workshops at venues throughout the US and the world, Diane Musho Hamilton is one of the most highly visible of experts on conflict management--with good reason: her methods, which combine Zen wisdom with principles from Ken Wilber's Integral Theory and her own extensive experience in conflict resolution, really work. In this new book, she turns her attention to one of the main places conflict manifests: in intimate relationships. She provides a very practical guide to navigating conflict in love and to coming to satisfying outcomes where both partners feel heard and have their needs honored. The book can be thought of as a kind of relationship "first aid kit," but also as something all couples should read in order to foster a harmonious and respectful loving relationship"--

Book Synopsis

This approachable guide conflict resolution offers practical advice on how to manage difficult conversations and foster healthier relationships--the Zen way

The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers. It's not a matter of overlooking differences, as is often taught, but of regarding those difficult aspects of the relationship with curiosity and compassion--for those very differences offer a path to profound connection.

Diane Hamilton's practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans--spouses, partners, colleagues, parents, children--shows that "getting along" is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.

Review Quotes

"We are constantly in relationship with others, and here Diane Hamilton has offered us a playbook to insure that every one of those relationships become more fluid, joyful, and harmonious. Do you, like every other single person on the planet, experience conflict or have a difficult relationship in your life? Do you want to connect more fully with yourself and others? Read this book! It will masterfully help you on a journey to greater love and acceptance."--Lodro Rinzler, author of Love Hurts and The Buddha Walks into a Bar...

"At this time, more than ever, our world needs Hamilton's insights on difference, and how we can find our way through our judgments, into a more balanced view that recognizes and appreciates both our sameness and our differences. Through intimate personal experiences, and in a warm and encouraging manner, she offers the reader profound insight and compassionate teaching on how to equally navigate our individual and interdependent lives. Like a Zen Master, she encourages and teaches a way to live in the tension of difference and offer our energies to this world we live in today. This is excellent medicine for today's ills."--Roshi Pat Enkyo O'Hara, author of Most Intimate: A Zen Approach to Life's Challenges

"Hamilton's years as a Zen teacher and professional mediator have taught her that embracing difference and working though conflict creates harmony with partners, parents, children, and colleagues. Mindfulness is at the centre of her common-sense guide to better relationships. She also counsels us to listen in a non-judgemental fashion, appreciate the other person's point of view, and treat them with openhearted compassion."--Lion's Roar

About the Author

DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is an award-winning professional mediator, author, facilitator, and teacher of Zen and Integral Spirituality. She has been a practitioner of meditation for more than thirty years. Diane facilitates Big Mind Big Heart, a process developed to help elicit the insights of Zen in Western audiences. Diane is considered a pioneer in articulating the wisdom of an Integral Life Practice and has worked with Ken Wilber and the Integral Institute in Denver, Colorado, since 2004. She is also the cofounder of Two Arrows Zen, a center for Zen practice and study in Salt Lake City, Utah with her husband, Michael Mugaku Zimmerman. In 2012 she cofounded Integral Facilitator, her uniquely developmental approach to group facilitation mastery.