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  • A simple, fail-proof road map for parents raising even the most challenging children from the founder of the life-changing Calm the Chaos methodology and the Lemon Lime Adventures blog.
  • About the Author: Dayna Abraham has become a trusted and proven leader in the parenting community.
  • 352 Pages
  • Family + Relationships, Parenting


About the Book

"A clearly organized, methodical approach to parenting. Dayna has created a road map to help parents find peace and meet their kids where they are at when conventional parenting tools have failed ... Backed by science and tested by hundreds of thousands of families, Calm the Chaos is a revolutionary road map complete with in-the-trenches stories, scripts, prompts, and worksheets that make it simple for parents to build a safe home and support healthy kids"--

Book Synopsis

A simple, fail-proof road map for parents raising even the most challenging children from the founder of the life-changing Calm the Chaos methodology and the Lemon Lime Adventures blog.

Strong-willed, spirited, explosive, and highly sensitive are just a few of the most common labels for challenging kids. Whether your child has been diagnosed with a behavioral condition, labeled, or is just harder than other children you've met, you are in luck. Parenting expert, Dayna Abraham is here to help.

Calm the Chaos is a clearly organized, methodical approach to parenting. Dayna has created a road map to help parents find peace and meet their kids where they are at when conventional parenting tools have failed. There are five steps to calming the chaos--Getting to Safety, Restoring Trust and Energy, Finding Calm in the Moment, Getting Ahead of the Moment, and Defining Family Success. Each step employs a framework that is easy to remember, even when emotions run high: you ground yourself, you connect with your kid, you work with them to understand the catalyst and the issue at the heart, and then together you get curious about finding an empowered solution.

Backed by science and tested by hundreds of thousands of families, Calm the Chaos is a revolutionary road map complete with in-the-trenches stories, scripts, prompts, and worksheets that make it simple for parents to build a safe home and support healthy kids.

Review Quotes

"In a conversational, relatable way, Abraham helps families create safety through love for their high-needs child so each member can move from surviving to thriving. Calm the Chaos will be a fabulous tool for anyone seeking to give their child the power to be who they were born to be." --Bookpage

"Calm the Chaos is truly a gift to parents who are looking to understand their child's behavior and offer them the support they need. If parents are frustrated, overwhelmed or just looking for a few action items to get started with parenting their child through new lenses, this book is a perfect starting point. Dayna Abraham honors advances in neuroscience and shares this knowledge in parent-friendly language. With all the parenting advice out in the world today, there are numerous tips and strategies throughout the book where a parent may say 'Hey, I can actually do that!'. This book is smart, authentic and leaves the reader with takeaways that they can implement immediately in their households." --Greg Santucci, MS, OTR Executive Director, Power Play Pediatric Therapy

"A compassionate program... The exercises are pragmatic, and Abraham's account of learning to help her own son, who threw screaming fits so severe his principal threatened to turn him over to the police when he was in second grade, attests to her hard-won expertise. Overwhelmed parents will find this a boon." --Publisher's Weekly

"In Calm the Chaos, Dayna Abraham has thoughtfully considered just about every tricky scenario parents might be navigating with their differently wired kids. The relatable examples, doable actions, game-changing reframes, and sweet visual doodles bring her roadmap to life in a way that feels accessible even for the most overwhelmed parent." -- Debbie Reber, founder & CEO Tilt Parenting, author Differently Wired

"Just when a parent feels at wits end, Calm the Chaos comes along like a true friend. This long needed book provides a straightforward and non judgmental way for understanding even the most challenging behaviors of children and how to approach them in an accessible and supportive manner. Having experienced major child challenges herself, Abraham understands well what it is like for parents in these very hard to handle situations with their children. The book provides an empowering, clear and compassionate path for helping your child, helping yourself as a parent, and moving forward in the most positive way. I am glad this book has arrived!" --Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. Director, Barnard College Center for Toddler Development and author of How Toddlers Thrive

"Parents, this is the book we've all been waiting for. Dayna Abraham's compassion for parents who are at the end of their rope and kids who don't quite fit the mold is unprecedented. Where conventional parenting tactics trap families in a cycle of disconnection and mistrust, Calm the Chaos sets families free from power struggles - and the heartaches that go along with them. Using small, digestible steps and enlightening illustrations, Abraham equips parents to uncover the root cause of challenging behaviors so they can respond in ways that foster growth in their child and peace in their family." --Rachel Macy Stafford, New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama, Only Love Today, and Soul Shift

"This book is bound to help parents of challenging children feel seen and supported. It also offers hope and a path forward." --Joanna Faber and Julie King, Coauthors of How To Talk When Kids Won't Listen

"If you've got a Chaos Causer (or two) in your home, get this book! With warm wisdom, Dayna Abraham leads you to restore calm and help your children love who they are, accept others, see how they can fit into the world, and develop values. Her method employs tiny steps to determine the challenge du jour, take care of yourself, connect with the child, understand the underlying reason for the chaos-producing behavior, and empower everyone to build a joyful family team. You can do it, Dayna says. You got this!" --Carol Stock Kranowitz, M.A., author of The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Differences

"Calm the Chaos offers a practical road map for exhausted, frustrated parents who are navigating challenging behaviors. With compassion and clarity, Dayna Abraham has devised a 5 phase program to help adults and kids of all ages work together to leave behind outdated behavioral advice, and instead focus on regulation and restoring connection. This book is an essential reset button that gives every member of the family hope, and a path to safety and success. " --Tina Payne Bryson, LCSW, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child & No-Drama Discipline, and author of The Bottom Line for Baby

"This book is incredible. Calm the Chaos gives parents, teachers, and anyone working with kids evidence-based, practical strategies for addressing every hot button behavior issue. Dayna Abraham has masterfully woven together her experiences as an educator and a mother to create a one of kind resource that is simple to use in real time. Best of all, it is filled with real hope for helping everyone thrive." --Michele Borba, Ed.D., author of Thrivers and UnSelfie

About the Author

Dayna Abraham has become a trusted and proven leader in the parenting community. An award-winning, national board-certified educator who has spent over ten years in the classroom, she is the founder of the popular parenting site Lemon Lime Adventures which has accumulated over 41 million viewers in less than seven years. She is also the CEO of Calm the Chaos, a seven-figure company which offers Dayna's compassionate framework to support thousands of parents worldwide. Her social media has a weekly reach of over 1.2 million people, and her Calm the Chaos free workshop has an attendance rate of over 200,000 people. Her work has also been showcased in HuffPost, Babble, Scary Mommy, BuzzFeed, ADDitude Magazine, and Positive Parenting Solutions. She is also the author of Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Everyday and Sensory Processing 101.
Dimensions (Overall): 8.8 Inches (H) x 5.9 Inches (W) x 1.0 Inches (D)
Weight: .75 Pounds
Suggested Age: 22 Years and Up
Sub-Genre: Parenting
Genre: Family + Relationships
Number of Pages: 352
Publisher: S&s/Simon Element
Theme: General
Format: Paperback
Author: Dayna Abraham
Language: English
Street Date: August 15, 2023
TCIN: 87841302
UPC: 9781668014288
Item Number (DPCI): 247-20-1489
Origin: Made in the USA or Imported
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5.0 out of 5 stars with 9 reviews
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8 recommendations

Definitely get this book!!

5 out of 5 stars
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Sunnyside - 8 months ago
Calm the Chaos is the absolute SECRET SAUCE to understanding and navigating parenting. Especially with neurodiversity, ADHD, etc. This is life changing for the whole family. As a Parent Coach, trained in Relational Neuroscience, I am always looking for evidence based strategies and experts that help families build stronger and more loving connections AND more cooperation. Calm the Chaos is exactly this. A guide that promotes mental health and well being, relational safety and connection, strong family bonds, understanding of scaffolding for reaching goals, and so much more. Dayna has been an expert in this field for many years, and Calm the Chaos covers everything you need to truly calm the chaos and enjoy family life again. Can you imagine? Calm the Chaos is easy to read, broken down into bite sized elements and information, and full of doodles that help integrate and understand the information. Did I say SECRET SAUCE? That’s what this is! The SECRET SAUCE to a connected and supported and close family life full of Love, Connection, Cooperation, Joy, Fun, and a Sense of Emotional Safety and Calm. One million STARS!
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A simple yet versatile framework will bring hope to your family

5 out of 5 stars
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Erica - 8 months ago
Are you looking for a parenting book that works and takes your unique situation into account, one that doesn't make you feel like you're broken or your kid is broken, one with hope, one that understands that your energy levels are drained and helps not only your kids but you too? Calm the Chaos is for you. Dayna has been there and breaks it down so simply so you can remember it in the moment. The book has great doodles to help you remember everything too. Dayna Abraham will take you step by step through each stage. There are even quizzes to help you better understand yourself and your kids. She'll also cheer you along at every strep and remind you that " You've got this".
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Buy this book

5 out of 5 stars
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Katie - 8 months ago
A very easy to read book that walks you through a framework that will help in any and all stages of parenthood. I wish this book was around years ago when my kids were little. Thankfully I got to work with Dayna and apply this framework many years ago. Now it’s easily accessible to everyone in this book. It also has helped me as a teacher to work with my students. So whether you are a teacher, parent, grandparent, counselor, dr…Get this book!
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One Stop Shop for all your Parenting Needs

5 out of 5 stars
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Kammie L - 8 months ago
I first learned about the author, Dayna Abraham, when I was having struggles with my oldest. I realized then that many of the parenting methods I had been raised with or seen growing up didn’t resonate with how I felt I should treat my own children. As I began researching, I found Dayna’s community Calm the Chaos and immediately felt like she was an answer to many late night prayers. Her course was revolutionary for my family and now almost five years later, I can honestly say I still use her framework daily and now know how to respond in a manner I feel good about and builds a culture of love and respect in our home while setting and holding to limits. This book is the perfect resource for new parents along with parents who are struggling to find their way or feel there has to be a better way…there is…and here it is! I love Dayna’s doodles throughout along with the fact that it is an easy read that can be picked up and read sporadically in-between all the many demands of parenthood. It can also be a resource to pick up and go back to easily as she has her framework mapped out using heading and subheadings along with a complete index. So excited Calm the Chaos is now in book form! I felt so validated and understood and hopeful in my children and parenting as I read this book. Dayna just gets it. She’s been there. She’s done the research. And now she has simplified it and made it accessible to all!
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Do yourself a huge favor and get this book!

5 out of 5 stars
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Julie T - 8 months ago
Calm the Chaos is a book that every human should read, whether or not you’re a parent, because it offers a revolutionary framework for how to interact with every person in your life, at every stage of life, regardless of whether that person is neurotypical or neurodivergent. I’ve been a mom for almost 13 years, navigating the ups and downs of parenting 3 super kids, often on my own. Over the years, I’ve read so many parenting books and taken so many parenting classes. Some techniques made no sense to me and some made a lot of sense, but realistically, only on paper. I felt like a horrible mom, because all of those other books told me that I set the tone in my family, but none of those books told me how. I didn’t know how to be the perfect, Pinterest-ready mom that the world seems to think I needed to be. I was falling apart, completely stressed, overwhelmed and burned out and my relationship with my kids reflected it. Then a pandemic shut down the world and after months of complete chaos, we were disconnected, constantly yelling and fighting, and really didn’t like being around each other. At just the right moment as I was hitting my personal rock bottom, I was blessed to find Dayna Abraham and the Calm the Chaos Framework. The YouCUE framework completely change my life, my parenting process, and how my family relates to each other. For the first time, I had the epiphany that I am a really good mom and it’s okay to not be perfect. With each step, I no longer deal with hours long meltdowns because now I understand that ‘all behavior is communication’. I’m not triggered by the chaos causers that happen in our family anymore, because I’ve learned to take care of myself, to ‘stop, breathe, and anchor’. I’ve learned to understand each of my super kids so I am able to meet them in their struggles, connect with them in the moment, and empower them to be solution finders. If you’ve been wondering how to calm the chaos in your family, this is definitely the book to read. Dayna walks the reader through each step in the process so that you can tailor the framework to your family’s specific needs and struggles. The personal stories of Dayna’s journey and those of her students truly help you realize that you are not alone and that if they can calm the chaos so can you. You are not alone. You got this!
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A MUST READ for any who parent, work with, live with, or know children!!

5 out of 5 stars
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drobi5 - 8 months ago
A MUST READ for any who parent, work with, live with, or know children!! The Calm the Chaos road-map has made the biggest difference in my life as a parent and human. Each stage of the road map has met me with understanding and empowerment, allowing me to keep moving my family and myself forward into the direction of our shared values and goals. Having children who are neurodiverse (and being a neurodivergent parent) means there have been numerous obstacles and challenges along the journey that other parenting guides/literature/therapies fail to address or consider. Dayna has broken the barriers with this road-map, creating a framework that meets each person right where they are with compassion, understanding, and motivation. I have no problem recommending this book to friends, family, therapists, educators, or anyone who has children in their lives. I believe the world will be a much better place as we start to engage in relationships (parenting and otherwise) using the Calm the Chaos model.
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Hope for our kids and our lives.

5 out of 5 stars
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WrenJenae - 8 months ago
My son was "one of those kids". We searched for years to find some answers on how to help him thrive and it wasn't until I found Dayna that we found hope. That is what this book is. Hope. A solid plan. In a time when the parenting world seems so divided and none of the "advice" worked for our family, Dayna saved us. And I truly believe this will change parenting and care giving which will change the world. And now, that life changing information is in an easy, affordable, shareable book! With cute doodles, small sections and stories that remind you that other people are in the same storms, this is a book that is easily read through. Where a lot of parenting advice focuses on how to "make" our kids behave, this shares how we can look at ourselves and our mindset to see our children and their behaviors differently. And when we see them differently we can respond to those "misbehavior" in a different way-a more empowering, problem solving, way for everyone involved. When you've been stuck for so long, it shares how to move forward. With plans that start where you are. For me, that was in the middle of deep survival mode with no idea how to handle my sons meltdowns. One of the biggest pieces for me was the solid method to release frustrations and keep my calm in those big scary moments or in just the everyday little chaos. Once I started practicing (because let's face it, you have to actually practice out of the moment and implement things for them to get better) my anchor and using the tools to survive the storm, I found that our storms weren't so debilitating. Then we were able to move on to finding ways to actually solve those storms. Our home today is vastly different. And while we keep coming upon new storms, we have a map out of those storms. A plan that brings us closer as a family and teaches and skill builds that we all need for life. This has also helped me tremendously with myself and in my other adult relationships and I would read it even if I didn't have children. I can keep calm and hold space for family when they call to vent. Understand that all behavior is communication when I'm dealing with difficult people and set my own plans to get through uncomfortable situations. And I am teaching my kids how to do the same for their own lives. It has the power to change your life too. Seriously, apply this framework to yourself, make yourself the focus and see how it can change your life. I am currently using it for my own burnout to really understand myself and make the changes I need to move forward and it has helped way more than any of the hundreds of articles on burnout that I have read through. I will keep using this framework for life. I have used it for school issues, meltdowns, burnout, sleep struggles, rough toddler times and disagreements with my spouse. It really can be applied to everything and gives you a way to keep moving that makes lasting changes.
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Everyone needs this!

5 out of 5 stars
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Nicole - 8 months ago
Honest, easy to understand, easy to follow framework. If you are looking for anything related to parenting from the normal battles to the challenging struggles, this is your answer! Parenting today is changing, and this has all the pieces you need! Everyone who has kids or works with kids needs this book! It is packed with information, action steps, and tools to make your success easy every step of the way.
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