Differently Wired - by Deborah Reber (Paperback)
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23 December, 2022
An unexpected angle
I read this book with the expectation that it would provide advice, support and guidance for my differently wired kids. There was some of that, and there were many interesting points that I had never considered. As a mom of both "normal" children and neuro-divergent children, I sensed a tone of anger and frustration in the book, which made me feel defensive as a mom of "normal" kids rather than finding the support I'd hoped for as a mom of kids with ADHD, Anxiety, SPD and OCD. The author, while knowledgeable on the subject, clearly has never had the experience of parenting a "normal" child so the book provides no middle ground for those of us in that catagory. The tone of the book seems to be frustration with an expectation that the world must conform to these children. I don't want the world to conform to my boys. I want the world to UNDERSTAND them. When my son begins a new school year or a new sports team, I have conversations with the teachers and coaches ahead of time that I don't need to have with my daughters' teachers or coaches. My daughter "fits in" and that does not make me entitled or "privledged" as the book implies. My son does not fit in and that also does not make me entitled to anything. It means I have to work harder and parent differently. I am not angry about that. I read these books to educate myself on my son's differences to help me to continue to advocate for him, to find my "people" and to see how others in my shoes have survived the trials of our unique parenting struggles. This book provides the reader with an understanding of neuro-differences and provides an interesting point of view. But it also implies that parents of "normal" children are somehow contributing to the problem and that is frustrating and frankly, disappointing. Is the book a great read? It depends entirely on what you're looking for.