Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were - by Brie Turns-Coe (Paperback)

About the Book

"I'm going to do the opposite of everything my parents did." Your childhood memories can have a profound impact on how you interact with, parent, and bond with your children. And while your actions may come from a loving place, when you parent through your past, you unknowingly make parenting decisions that attempt to satisfy your own unmet childhood needs, rather than tuning into what your child needs right now. In Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were, expert family therapist Dr. Brie Turns-Coe introduces the tools you need to begin parenting in the present - allowing you to rebuild the parent-child relationship and develop a deeper connection with your child that allows them to thrive. Whether you're raising a defiant teenager, a moody adolescent, or a tantrum-prone toddler, this book will help you: - Heal from childhood wounds that dictate how you parent - Break free from toxic parenting styles - Communicate effectively with your child in times of distress - Parent with greater intention - Adjust unrealistic parenting expectations - Grieve the child (or childhood) you wish you had

Book Synopsis

"I'm going to do the opposite of everything my parents did."

Your childhood memories can have a profound impact on how you interact with, parent, and bond with your children. And while your actions may come from a loving place, when you parent through your past, you unknowingly make parenting decisions that attempt to satisfy your own unmet childhood needs, rather than tuning into what your child needs right now.

In Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were, expert family therapist Dr. Brie Turns-Coe introduces the tools you need to begin parenting in the present--allowing you to rebuild the parent-child relationship and develop a deeper connection with your child that allows them to thrive.

Whether you're raising a defiant teenager, a moody adolescent, or a tantrum-prone toddler, this book will help you:

• Heal from childhood wounds that dictate how you parent
• Break free from toxic parenting styles
• Communicate effectively with your child in times of distress
• Parent with greater intention
• Adjust unrealistic parenting expectations
• Grieve the child (or childhood) you wish you had

Review Quotes

"Parent the Child You Have, Not the Child You Were is a book that is long overdue. As a pediatrician, I have personally witnessed thousands of kids raised by parents who were profoundly, but subconsciously, influenced by their childhoods. Every parent does this--no matter how well-intentioned they are. I did it, and I would have loved to have had this book when my kids were young. I also would have given it to every one of the parents in my practice. It is that important." --Meg Meeker, MD, best-selling author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

"Every parent should read this book! Dr. Turns-Coe reveals a proven path to healthy parenting, and her writing is chock-full of practical strategies and profound wisdom. Don't miss out on this invaluable message." --Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

"This rare book is a godsend for every parent. Finally, there is a book that deals straightforwardly with a rampant family issue: the unwitting influence of the parent's childhood on how they raise their own children. In an age of overemphasis on tools and techniques, Dr. Turns-Coe turns her attention to where it can do the most good: helping the parent to understand their own motives and to single out their children's real needs from the noise of family life. No parent wants to cause problems for their children, and this practical, wise book will show you easy ways of ensuring that your child feels loved, understood, and safely guided. A fantastic contribution to parents everywhere--I heartily recommend this book." --Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, licensed clinical psychologist and best-selling author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents

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About the Author

Brie Turns-Coe, PhD, LMFT, ASDCS, is an associate professor of marriage and family therapy at Arizona Christian University and the director of the Master of Marriage and Family Therapy program. Dr. Turns-Coe has presented at local, state, national, and international conferences on parenting and published extensively on the topic of family therapy. She has treated hundreds of parents who were parenting through their past traumas and helped them achieve healing and strengthen their relationships. To learn more about her work and read success stories from other parents, visit her at www.drbrieturns.com or follow her on social media (@thefamilytherapist).