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Surviving an Eating Disorder, Third Edition - 3rd Edition by Michele Siegel & Judith Brisman & Margot Weinshel (Paperback)

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  • Thoroughly revised and updated with the latest research and methodologies, the fourth edition of the classic guide written specifically for parents, friends, and caregivers of individuals with eating disorders.For more than thirty years, this classic guide has been an essential resource for the "silent sufferers"--those affected by a loved one's eating disorder.
  • Author(s): Michele Siegel & Judith Brisman & Margot Weinshel
  • 288 Pages
  • Self Improvement, Eating Disorders & Body Image


Book Synopsis

Thoroughly revised and updated with the latest research and methodologies, the fourth edition of the classic guide written specifically for parents, friends, and caregivers of individuals with eating disorders.

For more than thirty years, this classic guide has been an essential resource for the "silent sufferers"--those affected by a loved one's eating disorder. This revised edition put family and friends at the center of the treatment process, providing the latest information on the methods and practices available to facilitate the recovery process.

Surviving an Eating Disorder is the first book for family and friends to use a psychological perspective to understand eating disorders. Other treatment manuals or self-help books propose change but Surviving is the first to consider why change can be so hard for everyone involved. The factors that can hinder progress are discussed and the methods that can work are emphasized. Illustrated with case examples, this fourth edition explains the latest treatments and provides the necessary tools to carefully evaluate what can be most effective for each reader's individual care. The authors offer concrete advice and support, urging readers to care for both themselves and their relationships as they support their loved ones struggling with food and eating issues.

With its combination of information, insight, and practical strategies, Surviving an Eating Disorder considers crisis as opportunity--a time for the possibility of hope and change for everyone involved.

From the Back Cover

Surviving an Eating Disorder has become a classic since it was first published in 1988. It was one of the first books to offer effective support and solutions for family, friends, and all others who are the "silent sufferers" of eating disorders. This updated and revised edition provides the latest information on how parents, spouses, friends, and professionals can thoughtfully determine the right course of action in their individual situations.

With its combination of information, insight, case examples, and practical strategies, Surviving an Eating Disorder opens the way to new growth and helpful solutions in your relationship with your loved one.

Review Quotes

"Clear, wise, and eminently useful advice. This book offers solid and specific guidelines for understanding and change." -- Harriet Lerner, PhD, author of The Dance of Anger

"Deftly written, richly textured . . . Surviving an Eating Disorder is a wide-ranging and balanced book that offers a coherent guide for families and loved ones." -- Michael Strober, PhD, Franklin Mint Professor of Eating Disorders, David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA

"Surviving is richly respectful of patients and of their loved ones and is truly responsive to real-life situations and conflicts. It's a wonderful resource that I highly recommend!" -- Jennifer L. Gaudiani, MD, CEDS-S, FAED, founder and medical director of the Gaudiani Clinic and author of Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders

"Filled with years of wisdom and hands-on experience, Surviving gives concrete and thoughtful advice to you and your loved one when facing the inevitable challenges of an eating disorder. Keep this important book at your side for specific guidance and care to allow for the best possibility of change--both with the eating disorder and your relationship with the person you love." -- Jenni Schaefer, author of Life Without Ed, Almost Anorexic, and Goodbye Ed, Hello Me

"A significant and important update to a comprehensive gold standard book--bravo!" -- Judith Ruskay Rabinor, author of A Starving Madness: Tales of Hunger Hope and Healing in Psychotherapy and The Girl in the Red Boots: Making Peace with My Mother

"Well-organized and extensive . . . reasonable and practical suggestions provide numerous insights into helpful changes which can be tried by parents, spouses, friends, and even the identified patient." -- Vivian Meehan, former president, National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders

"With clarity and compassion, Surviving an Eating Disorder provides much-needed advice for anyone with a loved one who's struggling with food and weight. I highly recommend it." -- Ricki Lake

"The best answers to the hardest questions about eating disorders are found in this great book." -- Kristen Haglund, Miss America 2008

Dimensions (Overall): 7.9 Inches (H) x 5.3 Inches (W) x .9 Inches (D)
Weight: .5 Pounds
Suggested Age: 22 Years and Up
Number of Pages: 288
Genre: Self Improvement
Sub-Genre: Eating Disorders & Body Image
Publisher: Harper Perennial
Format: Paperback
Author: Michele Siegel & Judith Brisman & Margot Weinshel
Language: English
Street Date: February 1, 2009
TCIN: 11321009
UPC: 9780061698958
Item Number (DPCI): 248-00-0236
Origin: Made in the USA or Imported
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Beyond just covering the basic eating disorder 101's (which it does quite impressively), this book offers comprehensive, clear, and concrete strategies for supporting loved ones who are suffering from eating disorders, including anorexia, bulimia, and binge-eating disorder. The table of contents speaks for itself: Introduction: How to Survive Part I: Gaining Perspective Chapter 1: What You See--The Behavioral Aspects of Eating Disorders Chapter 2: Hidden Feelings--The Psychological Aspects of Eating Disorders Chapter 3: Rules and Relationships--The Family Context of Eating Disorders Part II: Confronting the Problem Chapter 4: No More Secrets--Bringing It Out in the Open Chapter 5: When She Says Nothing is Wrong--Coping with Denial Chapter 6: No One Can Go It Alone--Seeking Help Part III: Using News Strategies Chapter 7: What to Do About the Problems with Food--Practical Advice for Disengaging from the Food Fights Chapter 8: When It's Hard to Let Go--Understanding What Keeps You So Involved Chapter 9: Developing a Healthier Relationship--Relating to the Person, Not the Eating Disorder The book is packed full of so many gems that powerfully summarize the underlying, and often overlooked, components of an eating disorder. Here's just a small sample: "An eating disorder is not merely a problem with food or weight. It is an attempt to use food intake and weight control to solve unseen emotional conflicts or difficulties that in fact have little to do with either food or weight. An eating disorder is *never* simply a matter of self-control. Healthier eating habits and stronger willpower are not the missing ingredients that will make the problem disappear." (p. 40) "Because the symptoms of bingeing, vomiting, exercising, or starving can be so disruptive and frightening, it is easy to pay attention only to those behaviors. To do so, however, misses the point. The overt symptoms are just the tip of the iceberg. Beneath the surface likes a much larger piece of the picture--a complicated and complex world of feelings and experiences that are very much a part of the eating disorder. Both the visible and invisible parts need to be acknowledged in order to understand the disorders of bulimia nervosa, anorexia nervosa, and binge eating." (p. 53) "In every eating disorder, it is only when the person is able to find healthier means of taking care of herself and generating internal sources of self-esteem that she can give up attempts at coping that have, ironically and tragically, led to further emotional and physical damage. Only by understanding the protective and adaptive functions of these behaviors can *you* begin to appreciate why it may be so hard for someone to just "give it up." (p.42) "Sometimes one feeling conflicts with another, such as wanting to be grown up and wanting to remain a child at the same time. Feelings can be, and often are, intense for the eating-disordered person, who fears being overwhelmed by them, or worse still, overwhelming others with them. The fear of her feelings then exacerbates the problem, leading the person to panic and rush to food." (p. 52) "Not only is the eating-disordered person in need of approval, but inside she is "hungry" for care and affection as well. Often she has been so attuned to everyone else's needs that her own have gotten overlooked. Despite feelings of dependency, women with eating disorders don't want to rely on or need other people. Feeling dependent or needy leaves them feeling weak or like a failure and is to be disowned and avoided at all costs. For some women, there is an intense fear that others will be overwhelmed by their needs and leave them or stop loving them. To avoid this, they try to be perfect inside and out. The strain is enormous." (pp. 52-53) "The self-imposed demands of perfection and the fear of rejection that eating-disordered people experience interfere with the development of comfortable, intimate relationships. The dilemma is a difficult one. If someone can't reach out and allow herself to need someone else, to be vulnerable to someone else, how can she really get to know that person and let herself be known?" (p. 53) "As the eating-disordered person is more fully able to accept herself as well as her feelings about others, the need to block out parts of herself through food can be lessened. One aspect of this is helping her differentiate her feelings from physiological hunger. People with eating disorders tend to misinterpret emotional experiences as hunger and respond by eating." (pp. 123-124) In addition to all of this invaluable information and insight, the book is infused with hope. In the authors' own words: "Someone with an eating disorder has a long road to recovery. How she manages food and weight issues along the way will be part of her independent struggle to get well. What you do can make a big difference both for you and for her. Remember, this is an opportunity to fine-tune your relationship and to provide a strong base from which everyone can grow and change. There are many ways in which you can create an environment that allows for a richer, fuller way of relating that can minimize the need for the maintenance of a symptom...Don't go it alone. Be patient, and learn to discover the ways in which you and the person you care about can enjoy one another and expand your relationship, even if the person is critically struggling with her eating and weight. This is not an easy task. But if you continue your efforts, there is much hope for the future." (p. 254) Clearly, I can not recommend this book highly enough! I'm confident that family and friends who take this book to heart will be able to survive--and ultimately thrive--while supporting their loved ones through this difficult journey.
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