Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives - by Schlessinger (Paperback)

About the Book

Laura Schlessinger, nationally syndicated radio personality, controversial psychologist, and author of the bestsellers "How Could You Do That?!" and "Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives", uses real-world examples from her radio show and strikingly honest letters from her male listeners to create a compassionate and wise examination of the needs and nature of men.

Book Synopsis

Following the tremendous success of her New York Times bestsellers, Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives and How Could You Do That?!, Dr. Laura Schlessinger, the conscience of talk radio, now addresses the stupid things men do that diminish their lives and happiness.

With real-world examples from her radio show and strikingly honest letters from her male listeners, her book reveals that many men demonstrate a level of sensitivity and insight that will surprise most women. Dr. Laura provides commonsense guidelines to show men how to appreciate their own nature and needs. Humorous and wise, she urges men to:

-Stop trying to save or transform needy women

-Recognize and enjoy the need for intimacy

-Avoid blind ambition, which focuses on externals

-Realize their need for control

-Stop measuring their masculinity with sex

-Marry for all the right reasons

-Resolve emotional issues with their mothers

-Take pleasure in raising their children

-Understand the difference between being male and a man

-Be a loving mate

Men and the women who love them will be enriched by the compassion and wisdom of Dr. Laura's spirited perspective. Her growing audience will never look at their relationships, behaviors, and decisions the same way after listening to Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives.

From the Back Cover

For every woman who wants to know what her man is thinking.

Internationally syndicated radio superhost and columnist, controversial psycho-therapist, and author of the break-out New York Times bestsellers How Could You Do That?! and Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives, Dr. Laura Schlessinger is back with Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives.

In ten vital, compelling chapters, Dr. Laura speaks her mind on:

1. Stupid Chivalry
   By getting involved with the wrong woman (weak, flaky, damaged, needy, desperate, stupid, untrustworthy, immature, etc.) you think that your love will save/transform her.

2. Stupid Independence
   Unwilling to admit "need" for bonding and intimacy, you hide in excesses of work, play, drink, drugs, porn, and meaningless sex.

3. Stupid Ambition
   Unable to comfortably and proudly accept your inherent importance to society and family as husband and father, you bow to the false idols of money, toys, power, and status.

4. Stupid Strength
   Uncomfortable with feeling weak, vulnerable, useless, powerless, or rejected, you use intimidation, force, or passive-aggressiveness to regain control.

5. Stupid Sex
   Taking an attraction, opportunity, or erection as a "sign," you measure your masculinity and power by sexual conquests, infidelities, and orgasms.

6. Stupid Matrimony
   Lacking a mature sense of the purpose, meaning, or value of marriage, you realize too late you've gone down the aisle with the wrong woman for the wrong reasons and feel helpless to "fix it."

7. Stupid Husbanding
   Thinking that marriage is the honorable discharge from loving courtship, you continue to live as though you were single and your "mommy-wife" will take care of everything else.

8. Stupid Parenting
   Believing that only women/mothers nurture children, you withdraw from hands-on parenting to assert your masculine importance, missing out on the true "soul food" of a child's hug.

9. Stupid Boyishness
   Having not yet worked out a comfortable emotional and social understanding with your mother, you form relationships with women that become geared to avenge, resolve, or protect you from your ties to Mommy.

10. Stupid Machismo
    Understanding the true and meaningful difference between being male and a man, you can become a man.