The Emotionally Abusive Relationship - 2nd Edition by Beverly Engel (Paperback)

About the Book

"In this revised and expanded edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, acclaimed author Beverly Engel identifies the types of emotionally abusive behavior, providing strategies to help those who are being abused to confront their partner and begin making the necessary changes that will transform their relationship. She also shows emotionally abusive people how to stop abusing and offers help to couples who have slipped into a mutually unhealthy style of interacting. With her combination of dramatic personal stories and action steps to heal, Engel reveals how both victims and abusers can prevent emotional abuse in the future."--

Book Synopsis

A step-by-step guide to help both victims of emotional abuse and their abusers escape unhealthy patterns originating from childhood abuse and neglect

In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognized therapist Beverly Engel walks readers through a proven program designed to help readers get to the core of their unhealthy behavior patterns.

This book was written specifically for two types of couples--those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves to and make the necessary changes to stop abusing. Unique among books of this type, Engel focuses on both the abused person and the abuser, offering non-judgmental advice to both groups. She offers effective strategies, techniques, and information to end abusive behaviors, including:

• Why some people are attracted to abusive people and vice versa
• Patterns created from childhood neglect and abuse and how to break them
• Determining if you or your partner suffers from a personality disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline Personality Disorder
• How to decide whether to continue the relationship or end it
• The importance of healing shame caused by childhood neglect and abuse
• How self-compassion can help heal both victims of emotional abuse and the abusers themselves

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship is essential for those involved in unhealthy relationships or who have loved ones trapped in an emotionally abusive situation. Therapist recommended, this book is also a must-read resource for students of psychotherapy.

From the Back Cover

A comprehensive and practical guide for those being emotionally abused, emotional abusers, and others trapped in unhealthy relationships

"Engel's seminal book on abusive relationships is both practical and empathetic. I particularly like that she helps victims explore their childhood to understand their triggers and why they're in an abusive relationship. It's easy to read and explains how to confront abuse, move on, and recover."
--Darlene Lancer, LMFT, author of Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist

"In illuminating the significance of shame in both the abuser and the abused, Engel reveals pathways for clearer recognition and, ultimately, healing for those caught in the web of emotional abuse."
--Jerold J. Kreisman, MD, author of Sometimes I Act Crazy and I Hate You--Don't Leave Me

The second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing is an up-to-date and evidence-based program for working through the psychological and personality issues driving emotional abuse in unhealthy relationships. This non-judgmental book is written for those being abused, those who abuse, and those trapped in mutually abusive relationships.

Beverly Engel, a leading expert on the subject, explains how to identify and understand emotional abuse and what motivates it. She presents strategies for stopping emotional abuse, both for the abused and the abuser, and includes specific information relevant for those who are suffering from, or inflicting, abuse as the result of a personality disorder. Finally, Engel offers readers ways to help couples and individuals decide whether to attempt to save their relationship or move on.

About the Author

Beverly Engel, LMFT, is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and an acclaimed advocate for victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She is the author of twenty-three self-help books, including Loving Him without Losing You, Healing Your Emotional Self, and The Nice Girl Syndrome. Beverly frequently lends her expertise to national television shows and has appeared on Oprah, CNN, and Starting Over. She has a blog on the Psychology Today website and has been featured in publications including O, The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Ladies Home Journal, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, and more.