The First Four Words - by Tucker Miller (Paperback)

About the Book

"If you're using too many words, you're likely saying nothing. Conversations change lives, yet we often avoid the very discussions that could lead to breakthroughs. Fear of conflict, embarrassment, or simply not knowing what to say hold us back from initiating important dialogues. In The First Four Words, leadership coach Tucker Miller offers a fun, disarmingly simple solution."--Provided by publisher.

Book Synopsis

If you're using too many words, you're likely saying nothing.

Conversations change lives, yet we often avoid the very discussions that could lead to breakthroughs. Fear of conflict, embarrassment, or simply not knowing what to say hold us back from initiating important dialogues. In The First Four Words, leadership coach Tucker Miller offers a fun, disarmingly simple solution.

With the first four thoughtfully chosen words, we can start transforming tough talks into opportunities for connection and resolution. Whether you want to give constructive feedback, resolve family tensions, build workplace trust, encourage a colleague, or network with purpose, Miller provides the phrases to get you going.

This isn't about memorizing scripts; it's about sparking possibility with short, strategic conversation-starters. As a leader, it's your responsibility to articulate expected behaviors, not just leave it to websites and handbooks. Lighthearted yet profound, Miller makes a compelling case that brevity and courage are the keys to better communication. From performance expectations to consoling grief, she mixes research, personal stories, and actionable advice tailored to fit any relationship quandary.

So step out of your comfort zone, stop worrying about what to say, and unlock richer relationships. As Miller reminds us, the magic happens once we start. The first four words await; take yours and see where the conversation flows.

Review Quotes

"Over the years I've watched as professionals at all levels struggle to have hard conversations. Most avoid conflict out of fear that the conversation will backfire or destroy an important relationship. The First Four Words inspires readers to move beyond avoidance to curiosity, and from curiosity to possibility. I sincerely believe this book will help more people have these necessary conversations, with positive outcomes."

Mikaela Kiner

Founder and CEO of Reverb and Author, Female Firebrands

"The First Four Words offers a game-changing strategy for those of us who are uncertain about starting difficult conversations. Author and executive coach Tucker Miller has cracked the code by illustrating how four words can foster understanding and collaboration."

Michelle Marchant

Senior Employment Attorney, Formerly with Hewlett Packard and Microsoft

"Tucker Miller's extraordinary new book, The First Four Words, gives us simple, usable tools to make sure even our most challenging talks strike the right tone beginning with our very first few words. Why's this important: because many important conversations never take place or start off wrong and never recover. Why: because we just don't know what to say. This happens at work, with family, and in other day-to-day situations. Tucker's distilled a lifetime of personal and professional wisdom to give us a vital, practical guide for launching meaningful conversations where understanding and impact are so critical."

Stephen M. Paskoff

Founder, President & CEO Employment Learning Innovations, Inc.

"When Tucker Miller told me about her new book, I ordered ten copies! As an executive coach myself, The First Four Words is a book I plan to give to every one of my clients. The First Four Words is just what I've needed to share with leaders I support. In her book, J. Tucker Miller brings her usual wisdom, insight and empathy to this important topic in a way that will help all of us in business and in life!"

Kristina Moris

Founder and President of The Washington Firm, Ltd.

"Tucker Miller puts a new spin on how leaders can more easily engage people into meaningful conversations. As she explains in her book, The First Four Words, 'Eliminating the tendency to avoid difficult conversations is key to honing leadership capabilities and preparing for expanded roles of influence and impact. Your success comes from showing up and sharing your opinion, and your ability to do that lies just on the other side of avoiding discomfort.' Throughout my career I have witnessed leaders avoid the difficult conversations because they are not comfortable in having them. Her practical strategy will help leaders communicate more confidently and effectively."

Marilyn Thiet

Certified Business Coach, President and CEO of EDGE Performance Acceleration

"I am thrilled to endorse Tucker Miller and her book, The First Four Words. The First Four Words is not just a book; it's a roadmap for those who understand that the key to success lies in the subtle nuances of conversation. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone eager to elevate their communication game and make a lasting impact both professionally and personally. Prepare to be inspired, enlightened, and equipped with the tools to unlock the true potential of your words."

Bruce M Pflaumer

Founder of Michael Bruce Image Consulting and host of The Wisdom of the Wardrobe podcast