This Is Your Mother - by Erika J Simpson (Paperback)

Book Synopsis

FINALIST FOR THE CHAUTAUQUA PRIZE

Named a Best Memoir of 2025 (So Far) by BookPage and Real Simple * "A beautiful story about an extraordinary mother's gift of love and hope." --Jeannette Walls, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Glass Castle * "Candid...Heartbreaking...Illuminating." --Oprah Daily

From "a writer who's absolutely going places" (Roxane Gay), a "bewitching...innovative" (Publishers Weekly, starred review) debut memoir about a mother-daughter relationship across cycles of poverty, separation, and illness, exploring how we forge identity in the face of imminent loss.

When Erika Simpson was growing up, her mother loomed large, almost biblical in her life. A daughter of sharecroppers and middle child of ten, her origin story became a Genesis. Leaving home and a cheating husband while pursuing higher education, her path felt like an Exodus. Her rules for survival, repeated like commandments, guided Erika's own journey into adulthood. And the most important rule? Sallie Carol always preached the power of testimony--which often proved useful in talking her way out of a bind with bill collectors.

But where does a mother's story end and a daughter's begin? In this brave, illuminating memoir, Erika offers a joint recollection of their lives as they navigate the realities of destitution often left undiscussed. Her mother's uncanny ability to endure Job-like trials and manifest New Testament-style miracles made her seem invincible. But while our parents may start out as gods in our lives, through her mother's final months and fifth battle with cancer, Erika captures the moment you realize they are just people.

This gorgeously rendered story of a mother's life through her daughter's eyes weaves together a dual timeline, pulling inspiration from both scripture and pop culture as Erika moves through grief to a place of clarity where she can see who she is without her mom--and because of her.

Review Quotes

"Candid and at times heartbreaking. . . . With depth, Simpson captures the complexity of mourning an imperfect parent who lacked the ability to provide the financial and emotional stability she desperately craved, while also illuminating how daughters can heal from their messy relationships with their mother." -Oprah Daily "Moves with a quick, incessant urgency. . . . Through all the chaos, though, Sallie Carol endows her daughter with the most valuable of inheritances: the certainty of being fiercely loved." -The New Yorker

About the Author

Erika J. Simpson is a Southern girl living in Denver, Colorado, with her partner and their black cat. She holds an MFA in creative writing from the University of Kentucky and is the recipient of the 2021 MFA Award in Nonfiction. Her essay "If You Ever Find Yourself" was published in Roxane Gay's The Audacity and featured in Best American Essays 2022, edited by Alexander Chee. This Is Your Mother is her debut memoir, and she also writes fiction for the page and screen.