When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder - by Daniel S Lobel (Paperback)

Book Synopsis

Caring for yourself and your relationship with your mom who has BPD.

Growing up with a mom who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficult-but it's still possible to have a functioning adult relationship with her. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder provides you with crucial information for understanding the patterns behind her Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as the tools you need to start your own recovery process.

Find ways to reconcile your complicated thoughts and feelings with straightforward and easy-to-use techniques. You'll also discover a number of sample dialogues that give you blueprints for safe and secure interactions in a variety of situations.

When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder includes:

• You, your mother, and Borderline Personality Disorder-Learn why your mother behaves the way she does and how to maintain a relationship with her-without getting hurt.
• The help you need-Start healing with essential self-care strategies that will help you rebuild your self-esteem, cope with anxiety, protect your family, and more.
• Research-based tools-Get proven advice based on the most up-to-date approaches for managing a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

Get the help you need moving forward with the compassionate guidance of When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder.

Review Quotes

"When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder is a breakthrough work for those dealing with a fundamentally disruptive relationship. If you are looking for a way to move forward, Lobel provides a roadmap that's doable, wise, and truly kind. Hope, after all, is a good thing."--Mark R. Banschick, MD, author of The Intelligent Divorce and blogger for Psychology Today

"An excellent, well-thought book which I recommend to anyone coping with BPD. Using attachment theory as a base, Dr. Lobel describes in clear detail the impact of BPD on children and family members. With an empathy for both the mother and the child, Dr. Lobel describes--in very practical ways--how the reader can understand and cope with the emotional instability, intense anger, impulsive and self-harming behaviors, and the mother's feelings of abandonment. Moreover, Dr. Lobel takes time to also describe how the reader can take care of themselves, set healthy and appropriate limits and boundaries, and understand the symptomatic residue that may follow children into adulthood."--Carol Mahlstedt, MSW, Psy.D, licensed psychologist

"Dr. Lobel's When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder clearly and succinctly represents his intellectually rigorous and clinically savvy approach to addressing borderline pathology in family systems. Mastery begets simplicity, and Lobel's simply powerful text is sure to be revered by anyone who has intimately contended with borderline personality disorder."--Aaron Krasner MD, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry, Yale School of Medicine

"Dr. Lobel's book will help you identify a borderline parent; understand their behavioral and emotional tactics; recognize the consequences of this disorder; and begin to remediate its effects on your self esteem. This done, you should be able to begin crafting healthier relationships with your spouse, children, friends, and perhaps even your mother. What a wonderful prospect!"--William S. Rosenfeld, M.D., adult and adolescent psychiatry

"Dr. Lobel's experience and expertise offer insight into a very painful and confusing world of extremes. In a very clear and relatable way, the book is validation, explanation, and a navigation to a potentially more peaceful existence and coexistence. A book that understands, with a goal to help and heal."--Miette-Janine S. Cvijanovich, RN-BC

"My mother has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and I have suffered in private, quiet pain for the majority of my existence because of it. Reading Dr. Lobel's latest book is the validation of my life, up, down, and inside out. I could relate to every chapter and gained an empathetic, yet fortified, resilience with every technique suggested. I enthusiastically recommend reading this book because, when you do, it becomes a lot easier to coexist and empathize with the BPD in your life."--Jenn M.

"Not only does this book provide a detailed and highly accessible background on borderline personality disorder, along with accurate descriptions and sample dialogues between patients and family members. It is also one of the rare guides that offers practical, accessible, and evidence-based approaches to managing a relationship with a loved one with this challenging yet treatable disorder. It is an invaluable and unique resource for clinicians, patients, and, of course, their families."--Amir Garakani, M.D., DFAPA

About the Author

DANIEL S. LOBEL, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Katonah, New York. He's the author of When Your Daughter Has BPD: Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder and When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Adult Children.