You'll See - by Suzanne Groves (Paperback)

About the Book

In You'll See: A Story of Narcissistic Abuse, Survival, and My Journey to Understand, I write about my five-plus decades as an only child enduring the effects of my father's narcissistic personality, and the lifelong scars I carry.

Book Synopsis

A four-year-old sits on a hot Mississippi curb, clutching a pink suitcase, waiting for the fake family her mother called to take her away. If you recognize that feeling, this book was written for you.

Suzanne Groves spent five decades as the scapegoat child of a covert narcissist, performing goodness to earn love that was always being recalculated. This memoir navigates emotional neglect, gaslighting, and the invisible wounds that leave no marks but shape everything. It does not offer tidy resolution. It offers something rarer: recognition.

• Understand the patterns of narcissistic parents and toxic family dynamics
• See your own experience reflected in a story of survival and complex grief
• Navigate the weight of being a caregiver for parents who never truly cared for you
• Reclaim your identity after years of parentification and emotional abuse
• Begin healing from family trauma without needing the apology that never came

Raw, darkly funny, and achingly honest, this memoir proves that surviving such a childhood without losing your heart is its own remarkable achievement.

"Suzanne Groves explores, without excuses, the challenging relationship she had with her father. Her recollections of the minute details and reactions to her interactions with him are vivid and evocative of the deep desire she had to gain his approval. An approval she never got, no matter how hard she tried." -Katharine O'Connor, Ph.D., LPC

Review Quotes

2024 Literary Titan Gold Book Award - Nonfiction

2024 International Impact Book Awards Winner - Memoir

2024 Maxy Awards Winner - Bio & Memoir

2024 Book Excellence Award Finalist - Autobiography

2024 BookFest Award Winner, Second Place - Personal Memoirs

"This is not your ordinary memoir, but a classic that will make you laugh and cry at the same time. Getting yourself a copy will not only help you become a great parent but also a master at outsmarting narcissism in whatever shape and manner it may present itself. This is a book that CPTSD survivors will want to read. I highly recommend it!" -Reader Views

"The healing journey is not just a solitary path but a collective experience we all share. Each story of survival is a testament to the strength of the human spirit, and through these narratives, we find comfort and connection." -Midwest Book Review

"Author Suzanne Groves has poured her heart and mind onto the pages to deliver a deeply moving and eye-opening memoir that has many useful perspectives on the insidious nature of narcissistic abuse." -Readers' Favorite

"Dallas writer Suzanne Groves's new book, You'll See, is a deeply personal, mind-opening journey through her experiences as a victim and survivor of an abusive father who had narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)." -Lone Star Literary Life

"It was only after I read You'll See that I did see. I only wish I had read it before suffering a lifetime of subtle psychological abuse from a father I never understood." -Virginia Coleman, Chief Estimator/Civil Contractor

"In a story that seems it must surely be fiction, Suzanne Groves takes you on a journey so personal it feels like you've walked into someone else's home, until you realize it's a story about everyone, on some level. The only reason this book took me three days to read was because I had to sleep at some point." -Jon Julnes, Entrepreneur

"In You'll See, Suzanne Groves explores, without excuses, the challenging relationship she had with her father. Her recollections of the minute details and reactions to her interactions with him are vivid and evocative of the deep desire she had to gain his approval. An approval she never got, no matter how hard she tried." -Katharine O'Connor, Ph.D., LPC

"You'll See is a powerful memoir that will resonate deeply with anyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse or emotional trauma. Suzanne Groves' raw and honest storytelling not only sheds light on the painful realities of living with a narcissistic parent but also highlights the incredible resilience of the human spirit." -Literary Titan

"This is a story of grit, courage and inspiration which is hard to put down. I cheered for Suzanne the whole way through." -Reedsy