How to Not Die Alone - by Logan Ury (Paperback)

About the Book

"A lasting, loving relationship doesn't just happen. It's the result of a series of decisions: when to date, who to date, who to settle down with, if you should break up, and everything in between. Very often, we don't understand why we're making certain decisions, and that causes us to make mistakes. And our current dating environment--with its overwhelming [number] of options and constant pressure to make the right choice--only makes those decisions harder. Logan studied psychology at Harvard and spent years researching relationships. Here, she explains expectations, emotions, and other invisible forces that drive our faulty decision-making"--

Book Synopsis

A "must-read" (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.Have you ever looked around and wondered, "Why has everyone found love except me?" You're not the only one. Great relationships don't just appear in our lives--they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how. This "simple-to-use guide" (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You'll learn: -What's holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) -What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn't) -How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) -How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) -How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) -Why "the spark" is a myth (but you'll find love anyway) This "data-driven" (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

Review Quotes

"Why have you not found love? Logan Ury's How to Not Die Alone speaks to truths that your friends won't tell you. With a unique voice that offers clarity, action, and results, Ury's book promises to be a definitive guide for a generation navigating the murky waters of modern love."

About the Author

Behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury is an internationally recognized expert on modern love. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, Logan leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google's behavioral science team--the Irrational Lab--and created the popular interview series "Talks at Google: Modern Romance." She is a 2018 TED Resident and a featured dating coach on the Netflix series The Later Daters. Logan lives in the Bay Area with her husband, Scott. She credits her relationship success to the techniques outlined in How to Not Die Alone. Learn more at LoganUry.com or follow her @LoganUry.