Want Your Self - by Katie Horwitch (Hardcover)

About the Book

Shifting your self-talk doesn't start by finding nicer words, it starts by finding a truer you. In this pragmatic, proactive alternative to the toxic positivity that keeps us disconnected from ourselves and each other, you'll learn how to move forward fearlessly in your life and the world by changing your negative self-talk at the deepest level.

Book Synopsis

"Katie Horwitch is the queen of self-empowerment."-- Liz Moody, host of the Liz Moody Podcast and author of How to Build Your Best Life
I'm not good enough. Not smart enough. Not talented enough. We all do it. Belittling who we are, what we do, what we stand for--often without even realizing it. And it's stuck on a loop. Yet if shifting our toxic self-talk was as easy as repeating positive mantras, we'd have done it already. With Want Your Self, Katie Horwitch offers an approach for deep and lasting change--a guide for becoming fluent in an inner language for loving who you are while growing into the person you were meant to become.

In Want Your Self, you'll find step-by-step guidance for finding, being, and staying your Self in this increasingly chaotic and complex world. Horwitch shines a compassionate light on the seemingly everyday moments that define your narratives and unpacks your inherited emotional DNA--then shares invaluable practices like Truth Maintenance, The Planned Freak-Out, and The Fear-Less Equation to help you sift through years of pretending and perfecting to unearth the strength in who you were all along.

"Behind every person fighting against their Self is really a person who yearns to want their Self," says Horwitch. "And that is a journey worth going on." Want Your Self is the blueprint for that journey--a pragmatic and proactive alternative to the toxic positivity that keeps us disconnected from ourselves and each other.

Review Quotes

"Katie is like that enthusiastic, vulnerable, caring friend who gently urges you to be your best self, believing in you through your own skepticism. If you struggle with truly belonging--to yourself--read this book. Katie understands more than you can imagine." --Karen Walrond, author of The Lightmaker's Manifesto and Radiant Rebellion

"Katie Horwitch is the queen of self empowerment. In this beautiful book, she distills her powerful and unique wisdom into tangible takeaways that will help readers overcome roadblocks, old messaging, and anything else standing between them and a life that feels amazing. It's like having a really, really wise big sister you can carry around with you all the time--highly recommend." --Liz Moody, host of the Liz Moody Podcast and author of How To Build Your Best Life

"Want Your Self simultaneously critiques the massive self-help industry and offers a creative, thoughtful approach to the personal transformation so many of us crave. Horwitch laces pointed (but never patronizing!) advice with memoir, illustrating how the seeds of revelation often reside in the mundane experiences of everyday life--from a pigeon nest in an LA parking structure to repotting a plant--if we open our eyes and hearts to experience them fully." --Natalia Mehlman Petrzela, PhD, author of Fit Nation and premiere leader, intenSati

"A brilliant, honest, and vulnerable untangling of the complex stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we do. Want Your Self is an empathetic and openhearted guide ideal for anyone who is overwhelmed, living in the safe zone of stagnation, or eager to leave behind casual negativity. Katie Horwitch's deep observations, tools, and exercises will encourage you to rewrite your own story, one micro-moment at a time." --Kara Cutruzzula, author of the motivational journals Do It For Yourself, Do It Today, and Do It (or Don't)

"For those elastic souls avidly on a path of self-renewal, this book offers a unique step-by-step path that strips away our social veneer to uncover the nuanced hues of our truest inner heartbeat. Leaning into our shadows and listening deeply to our inner bodies' longings and complaints, the process Horwitch lays out aligns with my belief that our body knows how we can best be in tune with our universe when we listen with somatic ears.
"Written by a self-confessed highly sensitive person, this book's generosity and brilliance stem from Horwitch's own need to climb out of the trenches of social mores and self-inflicted goals to create a life in which she shines. These pages strip away the clichés that run rampant in the self-help community, offering the difference between intuition versus triggered suspicions, productive feedback versus negative criticism, and real self-love versus empty positive platitudes. Want Your Self is an apt title, because after reading this book, I certainly did." --Fay Simpson, author and founder of The Lucid Body, associate arts professor and head of movement at NYU Tisch Graduate Acting Program

"In a culture where self-help books often fall short, Want Your Self stands out as a valuable resource that can provide lasting benefits. Katie Horwitch presents a thought-provoking approach to transforming your inner dialogue, offering practical strategies that can be tailored to your personal journey. Horwitch shares relatable stories and a soulful narrative, encouraging readers to question common personal growth ideas and embrace a fresh perspective. Want Your Self goes beyond mere self-talk, offering an invitation to discover and enhance your unique qualities." --Dhru Purohit, entrepreneur and host of the Dhru Purohit Podcast