Why Me? Why Not You? - by Matthew Allick (Paperback)

About the Book

Book Synopsis

Why me?

It's a question I've asked myself many times.

Why did this happen?

Why now?

Why do some people seem to have life easier while others face setback after setback?

Maybe you've asked yourself those same questions.

If you have, then this book is for you.

This isn't a book that claims to have all the answers because the truth is, I don't. Life doesn't always explain why things happen. Sometimes the answers never come. But over the years, I've learned that although I can't always control what happens to me, I can control how I respond to it.

That's what this book is about.

Through my own experiences, lessons, mistakes, and victories, I want to challenge the way you think about life's difficulties. This isn't a book about pretending everything is okay. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending pain doesn't exist. It's about learning how to move forward despite the pain.

Throughout these chapters, I talk about integrity, accountability, creating a plan, accepting reality, dealing with criticism, moving on from situations you can't control, and learning how to keep living even when life throws its biggest challenges at you.

There have been moments in my life when I questioned everything.

Growing up, there were times when I wondered why life seemed harder for my family than it did for other people. As I got older, I experienced relationship breakdowns, financial loss, false accusations, public criticism, and one of the biggest health battles of my life when I was clinically dead for ten minutes after suffering a catastrophic pulmonary embolism.

At one point, 85% of my body was filled with blood clots. I spent three days in a coma and woke up unable to feel my body. Even today, doctors still don't know exactly why it happened or whether it could happen again.

For a long time, I could have focused on everything I'd lost.

Instead, I chose to focus on what I still had.

That decision changed my life.

This book isn't about feeling sorry for yourself, and it's not about feeling sorry for me either.

It's about recognising that every single one of us will experience struggles.

Some will be caused by our own decisions.

Some will be caused by other people.

Some won't seem fair at all.

But regardless of where those struggles come from, we still have a choice about what happens next.

We'll talk about taking an honest look in the mirror and asking ourselves difficult questions.

We'll talk about accepting responsibility where responsibility belongs.

We'll create practical plans for moving forward instead of remaining stuck.

We'll explore why some of the hardest seasons of our lives may actually be preparing us for something greater.

We'll look at why acceptance isn't weakness and why sometimes saying, "It is what it is," is one of the healthiest decisions you can make.

We'll also talk about health, because I know there are readers who will be asking, "But what if my biggest battle is my body?"

Tomorrow isn't promised.

That realisation changed the way I live.

I stopped putting things off.

I stopped waiting for the perfect time.

I stopped waiting for people to change before I allowed myself to move forward.

I started focusing on what I could control instead of what I couldn't.

That mindset has opened doors I never imagined possible.

If you're looking for a book that promises life will become easy, this isn't it.

What if the question isn't, "Why me?"

What if the question is... "Why not you?"