Raising Cubby - by John Elder Robison (Paperback)

About the Book

"The slyly funny, sweetly moving memoir of an unconventional dad's relationship with his equally offbeat son--complete with fast cars, tall tales, homemade explosives, and a whole lot of fun and trouble Misfit, truant, delinquent. John Robison was never a model child, and he wasn't a model dad either. Diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome at the age of forty, he approached fatherhood as a series of logic puzzles and practical jokes. When his son, Cubby, asked, "Where did I come from?" John said he'd bought him at the Kid Store and that the salesman had cheated him by promising Cubby would "do all chores." He read electrical engineering manuals to Cubby at bedtime. He told Cubby that wizards turned children into stone when they misbehaved. Still, John got the basics right. He made sure Cubby never drank diesel fuel at the automobile repair shop he owns. And he gave him a life of adventure: By the time Cubby was ten, he'd steered a Coast Guard cutter, driven a freight locomotive, and run an antique Rolls Royce into a fence. The one thing John couldn't figure out was what to do when school authorities decided that Cubby was dumb and stubborn--the very same thing he had been told as a child. Did Cubby have Asperger's too? The answer was unclear. One thing was clear, though: By the time he turned seventeen, Cubby had become a brilliant chemist--smart enough to make military-grade explosives and bring state and federal agents calling. Afterward, with Cubby facing up to sixty years in prison, both father and son were forced to take stock of their lives, finally coming to terms with being "on the spectrum" as both a challenge and a unique gift. By turns tender, suspenseful, and hilarious, this is more than just the story of raising Cubby. It's the story of a father and son who grow up together"--

Book Synopsis

The "hilarious, poignant, weird, shocking, and inspiring" (Parents) memoir of an unconventional dad's relationship with his equally offbeat son, from the New York Times bestselling author of Look Me in the Eye

"[A] touching, sympathetic, and often insightful book . . . part parenting guide, part courtroom drama, part catalog of the travails and surprising joys of life with the high-functioning form of autism called Asperger's syndrome."--The New York Times

John Robison was not your typical dad. Diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome at the age of forty, he approached fatherhood as a series of logic puzzles and practical jokes. Instead of a speech about the birds and the bees, he told his son, Cubby, that he'd bought him at the Kid Store--and that the salesman had cheated him by promising Cubby would "do all chores." While other parents played catch with their kids, John taught Cubby to drive the family's antique Rolls-Royce. Still, Cubby seemed to be turning out pretty well, at least until school authorities decided that he was dumb and stubborn--the very same thing John had been told as a child. Did Cubby have Asperger's too? The answer was unclear.

One thing was clear, though: By the time he turned seventeen, Cubby had become a brilliant and curious chemist--smart enough to make military-grade explosives and bring federal agents calling. With Cubby facing a felony trial--and up to sixty years in prison--both father and son were forced to take stock of their lives, finally accepting that being "on the spectrum" is both a challenge and a unique gift.

Review Quotes

"Charming and wise . . . this memoir will offer all parents--but particularly fathers--a lot to think about. That its author was almost forty when he learned he had Asperger's . . . and that he eventually learned his son had the condition as well, make their story more remarkable, but do nothing to diminish its relevance even for readers with no personal experience of autism. . . . [Robison's] deadpan humor [is] in evidence throughout . . . Touching, sympathetic, and often insightful."--The New York Times

"[A] funny, loving, and decidedly geeky account . . . shows not only that someone with autism can make a great parent, but that there are many ways of becoming one."--Toronto Star

"Robison . . . sheds some light on how having Asperger's helped him cultivate an outlaw style of parenting . . . by turns hilarious, poignant, weird, shocking, and inspiring. . . . This book will make you laugh and make you think about how to parent a child who doesn't fit into the neat categories we expect our children to occupy."--Parents

"How does a father with Asperger's navigate the complicated yet strangely beautiful world of raising his own Aspergian son? With humor, inventiveness, and love, of course. Raising Cubby is revelatory and hilarious, and it will move you to tears. This is storytelling at its finest--I believe it is John Elder Robison's best book yet."--Mira Bartók, author of The Memory Palace

"In many ways, this is a traditional father-and-son memoir, but the added element of Asperger's gives the story a stronger emotional core: When Robison and his wife separated, for example, he realized he had been misreading a lot of what had been going on between them. It's a story of a man learning to be a parent, yes, but it's also--and perhaps more important--the story of a man discovering, as an adult, who he really is."--Booklist

"John Elder Robison is one of my autism superheroes because he bravely brings humor and humility to the heart and soul of the taboo and unexpected corners of life lived with autism. His new book, Raising Cubby, is more than a memoir about a father and son bound by their Asperger's syndrome. It's a story that reminds us how precious and precarious the parent-child relationship is and how beautiful our lives can be when we share that ride together. Raising Cubby is Robison's best work yet."--Liane Holliday Willey, author of Pretending to Be Normal: Living with Asperger's Syndrome

"Funny and moving . . . A warmhearted, appealing account by a masterful storyteller."--Kirkus Reviews

"Raising Cubby offers up a gently twisted journey that is always insightful, often hilarious, and sometimes awe inspiring."--Publishers Weekly

"John Elder Robison has written two books on his experience with Asperger's syndrome: Look Me in the Eye and Be Different. In Raising Cubby, he brings his warmth, intelligence, and humor to an equally personal subject: his own son."--Shelf Awareness

About the Author

JOHN ELDER ROBISON is the author of two previous books, the New York Times bestseller Look Me in the Eye and Be Different. He lectures widely on autism and neurological differences, and is a member of the Interagency Autism Coordinating Committee of the US Dept. of Health and Human Services. John also serves on committees and review boards for the CDC and the National Institutes of Health. A machinery enthusiast and avid photographer, John lives in Amherst, Massachusetts with his family, animals, and machines.